Making decisions isn't always an easy thing to do. Generally speaking, there are three categories in which we base our decisions: 1. Most desirable. 2. Acceptable. 3. No way. We then consider the aftermath. True to say, nothing comes easy, and if it does, well then it's usually short lived. Different personality types make decisions differently. A Cappella Books on Moreland Avenue stock a variety of books containing interesting topics that provide food for thought.
Personality type A: Those who are quick to decide. Consequences are rarely considered at the forefront. Behavior is usually based off of personal gratification. If you are dealing with this type of personality or are this person, try erring on the side of caution. Seems obvious enough, but for some, training or re-training the mind needs to come with a purpose and if one is not known, then why change. Well, for starters, we don't enter this life knowing what is best for us or that we have choices. And in reality, we do have choices; our limits are only bounded by our own stubbornness. If you are totally content with the way you live your life and the way it's going, then by all means, continue. If not, stop and think before you act.
Personality type B: These are people who do not decide and allow others or life to make the decision for them. They are either complacent to the point of detachment or due to past experiences, are afraid that their choices may be the wrong one. Yes, life does unfold itself, but life also requires you to be an active participant. It's through those wrong choices that we can eliminate what is best for us. Clear your mind, find a quiet place and consider what you want. A nice park to visit, a little off the beaten path away from the hustle and bustle of the city, is Lullwater Conservation Park.
Personality type C: These people function mostly off of emotions. They tend to have a hard time making decisions, mostly due to the fact that they feel more than they think. And part of making rational decisions involves thinking. If you know someone like this, you know that they are oh so passionate. If this is you, you tend to benefit from connecting with a variety of people and somehow through it all, you gain an understanding through others of what is best for you. Still though, the decision is yours and the work has to be done by you.
Personality type D: These are the thinkers. They think more than they feel. Highly motivated by their own goals, stuck somewhere between their own inflated ideas and the people that keep them grounded. Most of the time they are the responsible ones. If this sounds like you, you can benefit from those who are more emotional. They help you tap into those parts that don't surface naturally. Making decisions take time and in most instances someone else is related to your decision. Knowing this, it helps to have a more balanced and considerate way of finalizing your choice.
It is very possible that we have been all of these personality types at one time or another. We are influenced by many situations, people, and life encounters. Remember those things that resonate with you, understand why it has meaning, and drive on. Connect with those that you benefit from and find a way to give back. It may come to a surprise that it doesn't take much. Little by little, you'll realize those things that work for you and those that don't. If your decision is centered around love or a relationship, well as the saying goes, you haven't lived until you've loved....and in spite of yourself, you do deserve to be loved.
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