My boyfriend and I have great anal sex when we are together; he’s usually on top and I’m a bottom. We were really into it the other night and I pooped a little when I was having an orgasm. This has never happened before and I was so embarrassed! He didn’t say anything, just went to clean himself. How can I prevent this from ever happening again?
Oops, I Poops!
What you describe is not an uncommon experience during anal sex. Stimulation of the colon during anal sex can relax the anal sphincter and promote contractions of the smooth muscle of the colon. Along with the pelvic muscle contractions during orgasm, your body was the perfect storm for your embarrassing moment.
Men and women can prepare for anal sex a number of different ways. Natural stimulants include water or oil enemas or digital (finger) procedures to loosen stool. Over-the-counter laxatives, such as fiber supplements, chemical stimulants, stool softeners, or saline laxatives, can also help move things along. Although these remedies can help you relieve yourself quickly, I would not recommend prolonged use. What I do recommend is the adoption of a healthy diet and lifestyle. Eat a diet high in fiber, drink plenty of water, avoid excessive alcohol, caffeine, or drugs, and take time with your bowl movements.
If you happen to find yourself in the same situation, don’t panic! Don’t be overly embarrassed! It sounds to me like you have a loving and understanding partner. Stressing about what “embarrassing” thing might occur during the act will prevent you from relaxing and enjoying your sexual experiences with your partner.