The end of the year holidays are upon us. Many of us spend a good portion of the year looking forwaed to this time. We think of joy to the world, time off from work, getting together with friends and loved ones, and presents.
While a lot of us are full of good cheer, there is a dark side to the holiday. Some of us are not so happy and get downright stressed and depressed. This holiday season can also bring a lot of negativity.
According to the Mayo Clinic (http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/stress/MH0003), the holidays bring many demands. Many of us are traveling or entertaining. We may be fighting traffic, or working extra hard to cook and clean.
This season also brings the prospect of many get togethers. We may also have to put up with people that we would rather avoid. There may be family.members with whom we do nit want to associate. We may also feel obligated to socialize with co-workers from.wjom we may also want a break.
Denise Mann and Brunilda Nazario (http://www.webmd.com/depression/holidays07/holiday-emotional-survival?page=) discuss how spending money, not exercising enough and increased alcohol consumption may also bring on bouts of depression. They advise that one should go easy on the drinking.
They advise other ways of coping such as making sure you get enough time with people you like to counteract encounters with strangers that you meet from some ofthe.parties you find yourself having to attend. In the case if the obligatory company party that you really don't want to attend but know you have to just go for a few minutes--long enough to make an appearance--and then leave.
If you are feeling stressed, do things to either avoid the stressors or things that will pick you up. Naturally in any crowd there are always those energy-zappers people whose negativiry is rampant and will suck the happiness right out of you. Avoid negative people who drain your energy and favor positive people.
Be good to yourself in different ways. Spend time doindoing what you want t do, even send yourself a holiday card.
Medicine.net gives some advice on coping as well (http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/mobileart.asp?articlekey=11005&pa...). A lot of us are dealing with expectations and financial stress. One if the things might help is a support group, or just some time with close friends.
Finally, it always helps to focus on the positive. In a very real sense, the holidays are no different than the rest of life. While it is a very special and spirirual time, thwre is rhe good and there is the bad. And again as in life, we have to take the good with the bad.
So while the demands of the season may be extraordinary, enjoy the good times, minimize the bad times, and enjoy.