Being the target of a bully, whether it’s at school, online, or anywhere else in life, is a terrible situation to find oneself in. It is frightening, distracting, and bothersome in even the least dangerous situations. At worst, bullying can lead to serious injury or even the loss of a life. It is not something that should be looked upon as “no big deal” or “just a part of life”.
Being bullied is serious and it must be dealt with one way or another. There are many different ways to handle being bullied. Depending on the situation, one or more of the following suggestions may be the appropriate recourse which will bring resolution to the problem.
Avoid the Bully
The best way to deal with bullying, if at all possible, is to remove yourself from the situation entirely. A bully is not generally all that interested in who they are bullying, just in the fact that they are bullying someone. If you aren’t available for them to take out their anger, frustration, and/or self-image problems on, they will quickly move on to another target. Bullying is a game that takes more than one person, so leaving the game is really a good option if you can. There are times, though, that this isn’t possible, such as when you are in the same school as the bully. In these cases, other actions will need to be taken.
Tell an Adult
Adults are typically more able to deal with situations involving bullies than young people are. They have different experiences, resources, and wisdom to draw from. Telling a trusted adult about a bullying situation is not being a “tattletale”, it is being smart. Bullying is no small matter and you shouldn’t try to get through it on your own. Let someone know who can help you to deal with the situation and put an end to the misery and grief that you are going through.
File a Police Report
There are times when bullying cannot be avoided, nor can it be dealt with by just anyone. If the bullying has escalated to physical violence, it is essential that the police are informed of the matter. The bully has proven him or herself to be a dangerous person and filing a police report will not only protect you, but also other potential victims. If the bullying has not reached the level of physical violence, but has become a situation of harassment, you should also file a police report. In some cases, the problem can be resolved immediately, but even if it can’t, there will be a record of the bully’s behavior.
Being bullied is terrible. It can interfere in almost every aspect of a person’s life as the victim will feel tense, threatened, and fearful any time that there is the chance of having to interact or be tormented by the bully. This is never a situation that should just be accepted. Bullying is serious behavior and it must be handled as such. In the best case, you may be able to remove yourself from the bully’s line of fire, but there are many cases when more serious measures must be taken. Do not ever allow a bully to control any part of your life. Deal with the situation in a way that will resolve it for you and in some cases, for future targets of the bully, as well.