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Deadbeat dads: are they your responsibility?

Well, here we go again with more reactive politics at the expense of the taxpayer.  The latest bailout goes to deadbeat fathers who have chosen not to take care of their children.

According to this article in the Nashville Tennessean, it is now the taxpayer’s problem to re-educate and teach sperm donors to be fathers.  Specifically, “The efforts will include parenting education, relationship building, life-skills training, employment and educational resources, economic stability support and mentoring to encourage successful fatherhood”.

I think I just threw up a little bit in my mouth.  Really? 

This is ridiculous legislation to once more put people under the power of government and to relieve individuals of any responsibility for their own choices and behaviors.  I don’t begrudge the children.  They didn’t ask to be born, but why on earth do we continue to band aid a problem so easily prevented?  Many of these deadbeat dads squandered the first free education they were given.  Let’s give them another while hardworking families have to put their kids through college without any “economic stability support”. 

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Couldn’t millions of dollars be saved on the simple, inexpensive remedy of birth control?  I may sound very crude, and I’m sure some will disagree, but the public is constantly called on to feed the hungry and to take care of the neglected.  In many cases, that is what has to be done, but it is becoming a cycle.  Why on earth is no one asking that birth control be administered?  Right here as well as all over the world, I get daily requests for funds to take care of hungry, poverty stricken children all over the world.  I do indeed sponsor one of those, so I am not completely without sympathy, but I have yet to see a request for a contribution for birth control efforts.  Again, the children aren’t to blame, and we must take care of those innocent babies regardless of what should have been.

However, why aren’t there agencies asking for my money for birth control and pregnancy prevention education instead of more food and supplies?  Where are the TV spots that ask for money to donate to a prevention cause? There’s no proactivity in continuing to support regressive behaviors. If we make efforts to prevent unwanted and unaffordable pregnancies before they happen, we might begin to eliminate this cruel tragedy that chidren ultimately pay for.  Why do we choose to feed it instead?

In the U.S., we pay people to have babies they can’t afford.  Why?  We have created a generation dependent on the government which is supported by the taxpayers.  Does no one see that by becoming that dependent, we are losing our freedoms?  Isn’t there a visible connection as to why this country is in trouble with the rich getting richer and the poor getting poorer?  People in poverty often do not realize that when they continue to accept government assistance generation after generation, they become slaves to it.Everyone needs assistance sometimes.  Many people have fallen on hard times through no fault of their own.  However, unwanted pregancies in this country are easily prevented. We have lots of programs and funds available for the innocent children, and many already available for dads who are truly trying to change their lives.  Another grant is unnecessary.  I don’t think it’s the taxpayer’s job to take care of the children AND their deadbeat dads.

So there’s my venting for today.  Birth control is cheap, effective and could be just as available and a whole lot more realistic than feeding billions and trying to re-create deadbeat dads.

Let the hate mail roll in…..

, Nashville Parenting Examiner

Kecia works as a middle school counselor and holds a masters degree in education/school counseling as well as being a certified trainer in the "7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens" curriculum. She is also a certified NLP life coach, business coach, master weight loss coach and social/emotional...

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