Dating the cyber way

Julie Spira "The Perils of Cyber Dating"

Dating … just the word conjures up feelings of insecurity, personal doubt and let’s face it down right fear … and that is if you’re young and energetic! Add to that the growing single population in their thirties, forties and fifties, you find that paranoia; anxiety; trepidation and panic are trailing in close behind. Julie Spira, author of “The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online” is there to hold your hand and guide you through the process.

 

Meeting a potential paramour via the web has its’ upside. One of the paramount aspects of it is your privacy. You view photos at your leisure, you can flirt without the concern of being turned down or ignored and you present yourself in the best way possible. You are able to be as anonymous or public as you feel fit - without fear of reprisal. And the best part is that the recipient cannot contact you unless you deem it so… all of this done while sipping coffee in your pajamas. 

 

On Saturday, August 8, 2009 in a special gathering - held just for the purpose of this journalists’ meet and greet – Ms. Spira made a special presentation to a Lock & Key Event at The Highlands (www.thehighlandshollywood.com) in Hollywood, California. For approximately $25, men and women mingled with others in an enjoyable and interactive way. The men got the locks and the women got the keys. Ms. Spira shared her lessons openly through her humor and wit. The author was on hand to sign copies of her book and provide free cyber dating advice to 100 guests that evening.

 

According to Julie, "It is important to reach out into the community" Spira added, "It's more than just selling books these days. It's about sharing stories and really being available to your readers after the book has been read."

 

Just a few statistics:

• There are over 90 million singles in the U.S.
• Over 40 million singles are online dating
• Online dating is the third largest industry on the web
• Over 2500 online dating sites, to date
• The desire to couple has increased with the down turn in the economy

 

Ms. Spira's introduction to online dating began in 1994, when she became the first of her peers to put up an online dating profile. "I was on the Internet before most people even knew there was public access." "I don't consider myself a serial dater, but when your friends no longer fix you up, online dating becomes a hopeful option.”

 

Ms. Spira's romantic tell-all memoir is slick; sexy and animated all in Technicolor! Over the last 15 years Julie has been on 250 online dates, received numerous marriage proposals, and divorced a Not-So-Prince-Charming of whom due diligence should have been done before tying the knot. Julie got right back up and into the cyber-dating world. She met a doctor who saved her father’s life, romanced her and then broke her heart through a blunt email. You follow her journey as she adeptly navigates her way on the internet, hoping to replace what she once thought was the love of her life with a new cyber mate.

 

In today’s Internet age, many of us can relate to Julie’s online dating adventures. However, while there have been numerous books on this trendy topic, her memoirs stand out from the rest. Undoubtedly, this is one of those books you can’t put down.

 

 

 

While clearly an online dating expert, Ms. Spira’s writing style is also tasteful. From start to finish, she sets the background, shares details about herself with honesty and humility, ending the novel with the introduction of the Blackberry and its influence on dating in today’s technological society. 

Ms. Spira helps singles navigate the web with her Top Ten Rules of Netiquette.

 

• How to date SAFELY online
• How to help singles create an IRRESISTIBLE online dating profile
• How to see the RED FLAGS and spot the bad boys.
• The signs of an unavailable man or serial dater
• Her profile definitions on what an online dating profile really means
• How to communicate effectively with the opposite sex
• How to find a date in 30 days or less

 

"It's not all doom and gloom in the online dating world. You need to see the "red flags" and move on. I hope to empower people to try online dating … knowing that singles will relate to my stories in Cyberspace" says Julie.

 

 

In addition to her appearance at the Lock and Key Event, Ms. Spira has appeared at the Donald J. Pliner Boutique, Beverly Hills;  Pamper Me Fabulous, Los Angeles; Tikkun Holistic Spa, Santa Monica; and literary events including the L.A. Times Festival of Books and BookExpo America in New York City.  She launched her book in conjunction with a Valentine Soiree at Social Hollywood, hosted by Step Up Women's Network.

 

Ms. Spira also believes in giving back. A portion of her book sales help to benefit Step Up Women's Network, (www.suwn.org) where she is a Luminary Member. The Network is a national non-profit membership organization dedicated to strengthening community resources for women and girls.

 

In the crowded playing field of online daters, you want to stand out. 

 

Transform your world …..

 

Visit Julie at:

·                     Cyber Dating website – www.cyberdatingexpert.com

·                     Facebook - www.facebook.com/juliespira

·                     Twitter - www.twitter.com/juliespira

·                     Blog Talk Radio - www.blogtalkradio.com/cyberdatingexpert