In the light of some noted events, I wonder how safe is online dating sites? Should a Christian man or Woman use these sites?
I understand they have their advantages:
1. It give you an opportunity to meet someone when you life is full of activity.
Most Christians are so busy with Church, work, and familiy that it leaves little time for interaction with potential mates.
2. It is a way to screen who enters your life. You can learn a lot from a person, just chatting with them.
3. It takes the pressure off. You don't have to come up with a clever pick up line or make sure you have the right amount of swag in your approach.
But look at this article:
7:32 a.m. EDT, April 19, 2011
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LOS ANGELES (KTLA) -- Days after a woman sued dating site Match.com, the president announced they will begin conducting criminal background checks on their users.
In a statement to the Associated Press Sunday, Match.com President Mandy Ginsberg said the company will start screening both current and future subscribers against the national sex offender registry.
She also said they avoided doing such checks in the past because of the unreliability of the database and that users of the site should not have a false sense of security.
Last Thursday, an unidentified female Hollywood executive and other Match.com members are filed a civil suit against the online dating site.
She claimed she was brutally sexually assaulted by another Match.com member who had been convicted for sexual battery six separate times.
Attorney Mark L. Webb said his client, identified as "Jane Doe," met the suspect last year at Urth Cafe in West Hollywood after finding each other on Match.com.
She agreed to see him for a second date. That's when the suspect allegedly followed her home and raped her.
After the alleged assault, the woman went online and found that the suspect had been convicted of several counts of sexual battery, Webb said.
"This horrific ordeal completely blindsided me because I had considered myself savvy about online dating safety," the woman said in a statement released through Webb last week.
"Things quickly turned into a nightmare, beyond my control."
The suit asks for temporary restraining order requesting no more members be signed up for Match.com until there's a way to screen out sexual predators.
Webb told the Los Angeles Times that his client wants Match.com to check members' names against public sex offender registries.
"It's not a guarantee," he told the Times. "But don't you think something is better than nothing?"
Match.com has called the alleged incident was "horrifying," but said cases like this are extremely rare.
THIS SCARES ME!
When people abuse a good thing, these things happens.
There are some people on these site that are mallicious, and there a people sincerely looking for love. There are good Christian people on the sites as well.
So should Christians use Online Dating Sites? Absolutely! But be aware
Here is a little advice:
The Holy Spirit is a guide and you should invite Him into everything you do. He will never lead you wrong.
Pray about all things, even the meeting place.
Take a friend with you.
Call a friend when you arrive and call that friend when you leave, I suggest you stay on the phone until you get home.
Never go straight home when you leave from meeting.
Always trust your instinct.
Never give too many personal details on the first date.
I know that talking on the phone for a week or two relaxes and you let you guards down, but remember that he/she is still a stranger.
Talk about God, put Him in the Midst.
I wish you blessings on finding you soul mate!
Think about, pray about and be About it.