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Dating after Going Through a Divorce

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No one said it was easy to date after a divorce. Dating as a single, newly divorced dad can be even more difficult, especially for those worried about upsetting their kids or bringing new people by them.

There are a few good rules recommended by counselors, psychiatrists, those who've gone through divorce and more. Check them out below, and take a look at yourself. Are you truly ready to get back out there and date again?

1) Don't be your own worst enemy - get out there and seek a partner, or just a date. If you have fear for your children, fear about opening up, fear about spending too much money or anything else, go slow and start small.

You have to get out of your own way to happiness sometimes.

2) If you're thinking about your ex, you're probably not ready - don't worry if this applies to you. Allow yourself some time to heal and focus on yourself before trying to date.

As psychologist Sam J. Buser explains in an article for WebMD, men often rush into new relationships as a way to get over an ex. And this can be a problem.

"The relationships they start do not often work out in the long run," he says. "I advise my patients to wait at least two years. I've never had a man take me up on that advice, but I do try to slow them down."

3) Have some standards - you can know what you want and don't want without comparing new dating partners to your ex too often. Figure out what's most important to you, and start from there. Avoid those who trash their ex, only talk about their ex, drink too much or seem over-emotional and not in the present. They are probably not ready to start dating again.

4) Focus on y-o-u - it's time to spoil yourself and take care of your concerns, first and foremost. If you don't heal and take care of your own feelings, how can you help anyone else?

"If you're making some changes on the inside with your attitude and outlook on life, you might as well do the same with your appearance," says AskMen writer Andre Cross.

So the bottom line is that, when you start taking care of yourself again, this shows itself to others. Soon enough, you'll be able to start connecting with other potential partners and feel comfortable re-entering the dating world.

More info here: http://www.dadsdivorce.com/articles/helpful-tips-for-dating-after-a-divo...

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