What do Olympic medalists, Oscar-winning movie stars, and people in successful relationships have in common? Their peak performance is a result of practice, practice, practice. So, consider the solo sessions in a dateable adult's life as a sort of training camp for that great love to come.
Not every singular is seeking romance around the corner, but many people are, according to the entire online dating industry, bridal industry, and your Grandma. So, let's run with it. At some point in life, if not many times over, humans seek love and intimacy. But, when we are one partner shy of a tango, we have to self-motivate and direct ourselves toward a more rewarding, advanced level of performance for our next attempt. When the opportunity to shine presents itself, singulars with excuses or woeful baggage won't be attractive to the singular front-runners.
We may not lace up our shoes each morning like an Olympian, but an occasional visit to a gym might be helpful, when not exactly headed to the altar, instead. Expanding one's education, exploring new places, or dating beyond a regular "type" are all ways of training for a wonderful love connection someday. It's tough to be the star, the coach, and the audience for your own life story, but that solitary effort when nobody is cheering will pay off when a golden opportunity arises.
What do you do with your "down" time, with no significant other? It may take months or years for some singles to transition between relationships, but that chapter should not include empty pages.
A single thought: Life is not a dress rehearsal.
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