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Date yourself

I was so inspired by my article, “Attached to being attached,” I decided to write a follow up article about dating yourself. Thank you to D for being my muse. For those who didn’t read the article, I touched briefly on people who like to be in relationships just for the sake of being with someone as opposed to actually caring about a person and how this repetitive cycle is detrimental. We all deserve a break and being in a relationship is no different. From that article I decided to write about how to date you.
It’s easy to date other people and play the field. But when was the last time that you dated yourself? I mean really got to know who you are and what you like. Took yourself out to eat, traveled alone and wined and dined the incredible person that you are. I know it main seem a bit strange and foreign but believe me it makes sense. Think about it if you will. If you aren’t willing to date you and appreciate yourself, why would someone else want to?
Not to say that you should be in a relationship with yourself and talk in the third person, but there is nothing wrong with hanging out minus one. Go check out a movie or go to a sports bar or lounge and grab a seat at the bar. It’s amazing the things you learn about yourself as well as others when you are not distracted by a second or third party.
Though a lot of people may frown their noses up at what I’m saying, it can and will work if you are willing to give it a chance. You can’t go in with a preconceived notion. Have an open mind and open heart to the experience and the possibilities of what lie ahead. You won’t feel comfortable over night, but it will get easier if you keep at it.
And this doesn’t have to be for those who are freshly out of a relationship. Those with a significant other can also take time out for themselves and revel in the fact that they are amazing. We all have something that works for us. Whether it be our smile, laugh, sense of humor, fashion sense, quick wit, etc. Don’t just keep it to yourself or share it with your partner. Let the world know how fabulous you are.
I’m going to follow this article up with five places/ways you can date yourself. For now I will mention attending the seventh annual German Bierfest at Woodruff Park in Atlanta. Not only is this a great way to date yourself, you can have a one-night stand with over 30 different German beers as well LOL. Bottoms up.


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    Denise Harper 4 years ago

    Great Article!
    I can't begin to tell you how many conversations I've had with friends about feeling comfortable attending events, even eating dinner out alone. You're right, it takes a while to get used to. When I finally felt comfortable, I began to feel empowered and so independent/

  • Felicia Maxwell 4 years ago

    Thanks! Before you can learn how to love someone, you have to first love yourself. And if you can't enjoy your own company, how will someone else?

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