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Date your mate: dating advice for married people

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I'm not a licensed professional, so please consult your own therapist, parole officer, minister, tax adviser, attorney, sponsor and/or agent before taking any action based upon the information contained in this article. Now, without further ado…dating advice for married people...

Remember the days before marriage, when you stayed up late and talked for hours and listened to every word your love had to say? Remember how he or she listened to you so intently, as well, and made you feel like you were the only person alive? First came love, and then came marriage and then came the baby in the baby carriage…

But now your happily ever after includes the stresses and responsibility of marriage, and baby drool, making days seem shorter and the demands of jobs and raising kids seem long. Your soul mate now seems more like your roommate. The result? The sparkle of marriage is beginning to fizzle.

You love your spouse. (Well, I suppose you could just be using him/her for sex or money, but I’ll go ahead and work under the supposition that there’s love in there somewhere). But regardless, marriage can begin to weaken from lack of attention when dating your spouse becomes one more chore in an already over-tapped (no pun intended) day. A boring marriage can lead to a lot of marriage conflicts like infidelity, misunderstandings or lack of interest in love.

If you were lucky enough to find the love of your life in the first place, you better make sure you keep the love of your life by putting a little razzle dazzle back into your marriage and start dating your spouse. Here are some ways to keep the fire burning in your marriage and hints for dating your spouse:

Put attention into your physical appearance. Ladies, I’m not saying you need to go get a boob job and a lip injection as some in Orange County are prone to do, but change out of that terry cloth romper and brush your hair for Pete sake. And fellas, how about just one jumping jack and one less lap through Jack in the Box? Although looks is just superficial, it is also important to keep your appearance at its best if you want to add spice to your marriage. Put an effort to always look good anywhere and anytime. It will also make you feel better if you look good.

Set a regular romantic date.Living together and seeing each other every day is not enough to strengthen your marriage. You both need to spend time with each other alone to add spice to your marriage. Plan a romantic date at least once a month to keep your connection stronger. A dinner, movie or go out dancing will add more happy memories and will bring the two of you closer. And when you get home, get naked…

Spice up your sex life. If the closest you’ve come to having sex lately was when your knee brushed against her breast while walking in the park then it’s time break out of the doldrums. For starters, do anything banned in South Carolina. Okay, just kidding. All you really need is a jar of organic honey, two bags of M&Ms, one bag of goose feathers and a vacuum cleaner. HA! If you feel sex is getting boring, then try something new and encourage your spouse to be creative too. Even if you have been together for a long time now, there are still new things you both can do to make sex more exciting and add spice to your marriage.

Don't take your most important relationship for granted. If you want your relationship to be extraordinary, you can't throw it in with all of the ordinary things you have to do every day. You want your marriage to be much more than just another daily obligation.

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