When dating watch for "Red Flags". These are undesirable character traits that cause havoc in relationships.
Here are some common flags to watch for when selecting a partner:
1. Drinking in excess. Social drinking is acceptable. Beware of the amount of alcohol consumed during a date night.
2. Asking deep personal questions on the first few dates. Basic information is acceptable, but intimate details are reserved for trusted individuals only.
3. Talking about sex. What he or she likes sexually is a sure sign of a sex addict.
4. Speaking negatively about past relationships or others in general.
5. Extreme jealousy; individual who asks probing questions about past relationships and what attracts the potential mate. Also micro-managing with the eyes when out in public.
6. Too good to be true. If a person seems too good to be true watch out for sociopaths who are insecure and need to embellish the truth out of fear of being unacceptable.
7. Watch for inappropriate or bazaar behavior; such as acting rude or disrespectful to anyone. This could be a sign of a personality disorder or drug issue.
These red flags are as important for men as they are for women. There is not gender specifics when it comes to protecting oneself during dating.
A dating relationships goal is romance while courtships goal is marriage. Definition of Courtship:
Courtship is the period in a couple's relationship which precedes their engagement and marriage, or establishment of an agreed relationship of a more enduring kind. During courtship, a couple get to know each other and decide if there will be an engagement or other such agreement. A courtship may be an informal and private matter between two people or may be a public affair, or a formal arrangement with family approval. Traditionally, in the case of a formal engagement, it has been perceived that it is the role of a male to actively "court" or "woo" a female, thus encouraging her to understand him and her receptiveness to a proposal of marriage. Resource: Wikipedia
Men and women beware of undesirable traits in all dating partners. This would also include new friendships.
There is an excellent book for women who need insight about dangerous men. "How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before you get Involved" Sandra L. Brown, MA.