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Dancing with Disaster

When you are in a relationship, there are many factors that come into play such as past relationships, good or bad. When you have experienced such things in a former relationship as mistrust, lies or cheating, these are things that are difficult to leave behind. If you do not heal yourself of the effects that these things can leave then you will take them into your next relationship.

Have you ever been sitting around with your new boyfriend or girlfriend and their phone rang, they didn't pick up and instantly your mind thought they are not answering because it's probably another woman or man calling? If so, you are not alone.

The reason things like this happen is NOT because of simple jealousy, it is actually caused from a hormone within the brain called "noradrenaline, also called trihydroxy phenethylamine and is a catecholamine with multiple roles including those as a hormone and a neurotransmitter. When you experience an event that in the past made you angry, upset, scared and ended up ending your relationship, this hormone kicks in and reminds us "this happened before". It is like being in a time machine and transports your brain right back to the moment that issue occured.

If this is happening to you in your new relationship, maybe it's time to take a look within yourself first and then have a honest talk with your new partner to explain this to them and explain your past relationship issues and why you act the way you do when something happens that was similar to your old relationship.

This will also open up the lines of communication and honest and start a solid foundation for your current relationship.

Till next time,

Jennifer