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Dan Savage tackles asexuality again, or more accurately he does not

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The Savage Love columnist returned to the issue of asexuality in his most recent column. If a person wants to read a more accurate statement, he did not. He carefully avoided the issue even though one of his letter writers mentioned the "a" word.

The letter writer, who describes herself as My Sad Boyfriend, tells the tale of her romantic partner. She believes that the partner is asexual, and she also admits that the boyfriend suffers from self-esteem and self-image issues. At the end of the letter, she states that both she and her romantic partner think that he might be asexual. Savage does not address the boyfriend’s sexual orientation. The Seattle-based columnist tells the letter writer how she should deal with her boyfriend's possible psychological issues.

The boyfriend may be a heterosexual person repulsed by intercourse, he may be a repulsed asexual, or he may be a manipulative jerk. He may be more than one of those things, but only an individual the boyfriend knows his sexual orientation. A psychologist can help him realize what he is, but no therapist can diagnose someone as heterosexual, homosexual or asexual.

My Sad Boyfriend already plays the role of a caring friend, as Savage points out, but she should get her boyfriend should seek help from a qualified mental health professional. Low self-esteem and low self-worth can be signs of clinical depression. Both My Sad Boyfriend need to examine what they want out of their relationship as well.



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