Not everyone’s baggage manifests in a messy home, some very messy people are just a mop away from optimal health and wellness while some very clean people are good at distributing their baggage in other ways like in the work place as competitive, idea stealing, non-team players or worse, they may save their baggage to hoard onto a spouse or lover in heated guilt-trip arguments full of minimization, projection, denial and insanity.
A clean house is more than just for show, a clean house can represent ones overall mental health.
Being a neat freak is a mask at times too but this article speaks for healthy persons whose baggage reflects in their external home environment.
Research based on cleaning revealed that persons were less likely to clean when they suffered from any level of discomfort mentally.
Sacramento resident who we will refer to as "Sac-Lady 20/20" shares that when she dated her first husband she was very particular about her level of cleanliness. She recalls that she washed all of her undergarments in peroxide only, scrubbed walls, mopped and shampooed the carpet once a week.
Sac-Lady 20/20 shares that shortly after she married her first husband and he cheated on her, she lost her zeal to clean. 20/20 shares that it was like something came over her where no matter what, she just could not do it and when she did, it was very seldom that she did it right.
Sac-Lady claims that upon divorcing her husband, like a miracle, her cleaning desire returned but when she started dating, she noticed that after she did not feel as confident in the relationship with the person she was dating, once again she began to neglect her cleaning.
Sac-Lady 20/20 also shares that it would seem impossible, she would have all of the energy and be prepared but no matter what, it just would not happen. She claimed that her cooking even suffered. 20/20 shared that on several occasions during her feelings of insecurity, she planned to cook for friends but could not execute meals to her true cooking performance.
20/20 claims her cooking skills were effected when she was stressed claiming that she once had a certificate in cooking at some point in her life but that during times of insecurity in relationships, she would even neglect boiling eggs, rice or plain old water, burning up pots and finishing sides that were not edible.
20/20 was not the only person referenced or interviewed in relation to this topic, several women and men shared that in times of stress, some component of their life suffered regular maintenance.
Sacramento resident whose first initial is J. shares that she totally agrees that mental health impacted her level of cleanliness and claimed that she monitors her mental health by her performance around the house.
J. claimed that she struggled to get to a good place mentally and now she manages her mental health by monitoring how she keeps maintenance of her house.
J. claimed that at the moment of the interview, her closet was a total disaster and had been that way going on about a month. J. says that mentally, she was doing well but there was something eating at her, a personal matter with a lover that she had no control over and she knew that her closet was a direct representation of the relationship.
J. claimed that the agony could have manifested itself in any room but suspects that it manifested in the closet because with the closet door closed, she could pretend the situation did not bother her.
J. shared that just like “Sac-Lady” her cooking abilities suffer too whenever she is stressed. J. says that she was dating someone and offered to bring them some tacos she had cooked for dinner.
J. shared that her room-mate had eaten her last batch of tacos so she had to make more for the person she was dating but that she could not duplicate them no matter how hard she tried. J. says the tortilla's were the greasiest she had ever fried and that she put so much salsa it further wilted the already greasy tortilla's. J. knew that she must had some degree of anxiety about the person she was dating and decided to take a closer look after she demolished the taco's.
J. says she too noticed, just as Sac-Lady had mentioned in the duration of the interview, that when things were all good in her life, she was motivated to thoroughly clean and get rid of excess baggage around the house and that she was back to cooking like a professional chef.
This article is not meant to judge anyone in any way but is written informatively to reveal that a mess calls for mental clean up. Some people reveal that they are totally satisfied with their life as a whole but do not like cleaning up. Such an attitude is notorious in persons who have not yet recognized what is eating them as a mess actually means you really have some degree of unhealthy stress.
Places where hidden stress and/or depression may show up externally:
-Linen closets that are messy or lack proper linens…
-Under the kitchen sink reflective in an abundance of supplies that are dated and probably hazardous…
-Kitchen, closets, bathrooms…
-car or just the trunk of the car…
-messy clothes or lack of clothing control is a big one that one will feel an enormous amount of stress relief once under control.
-sinks, tubs and/or showers
-wallet or purse
-table tops etc…
Even places one chooses to shop. If you notice your favorite department store or restaurant does not have it together, it is a reflection on the health of the business as well as your mental health in feeling comfort at shopping in a mess.
If the business you work for or your own business boasts a high turnover rate, out of sync departments, underpaid rates amidst unreasonable hours, all is a mess reflective of your level of mental health.
Research suggest that cleanliness is directly associated with mental health. If you have no desire to clean and live in a mess, use that as a reason to evaluate what you want or may need to change in your life.
As far as current human knowledge takes us, the life we are living now can only be what we make it, why not live as lavish as we can by optimizing our environment with polished textures, fluffy-fresh-smelling carpets, sparkling dishes, spacious and clutter free garages and meals that have nurture and patience behind them.
It is healthy to do an inventory on people and either change your perception of the relationship you have with them or weed out the toxic persons in your life. You might notice how motivated you are to clean-up when you get rid of something or someone that is of major stress to you.
You may also want to take notice if you were once a person who was very neat and clean and suddenly could care less about maintaining a clean environment.
Health actually does mean clean and fresh too. Dirt in a home offers negative feedback to your subconscious.
Have you ever suffered in a bad relationship? If so, how did the bad relationship show-up in other parts in your life? Share below or within email.