Touch and Cuddle
Infants that do not get sufficient touching and cuddling do not thrive, bond and develop to their potential. The lack of sufficient touch and cuddle in an adult relationship will also prevent it from thriving, bonding, and developing to its full potential. We’re not talking just about sexual or genital touching here; we mean hand holding, a pat or squeeze in passing each other, a meaning full hug or even a knowing wink that says, “I do love you, I’m lucky to have you, I’ll never let you go!” Cuddling while you watch TV or putting an arm over your partner’s shoulder, or holding hands in a movie say more about your feelings for each other than all the presents you can ever exchange. A smile or that twinkle in your eye when you for a moment catch each other’s glance says volumes and can be one of the greatest turn-ons you may ever get. If those moments have faded from your relationship it’s time to recapture them forthwith! Get in touch with touch! Cuddling is proven to hold many health benefits. Cuddling is similar to massage, involving and stimulating pressure receptors under the skin which start a cascade of physiological-biochemical events including reducing the stress hormone, cortisol, and increasing immune functions. Cuddling produces oxytocin the so-called "love hormone.” At night in bed, spooning is great, but even the slightest touch of your partner's body will help you relax, fall asleep, and get more benefit from that sleep.
Jean, a 57 year old woman, married 27 years to her second husband says, “One of the things I’ve loved most about Harry is his body language. He can tell me more with his smile or a wink than with all the words my first husband spoke in our five year failed marriage. He can’t be near me without giving me a nudge, a touch or a little shoulder hug in passing. When we go anyplace he holds my hand or slips an arm around my waist of back.” She gives a wistful smile and continues, “I’ll never tire of it. I love it! It’s like having foreplay all day long! And if he never told me he loves me, which he does often enough, I’d never have a doubt about it.”
For more about Cuddle and Touch read "Sex in the Golden Years - the best sex ever" & "FOREPLAY - the real focus of great sex." www.boomerbookseries.com