How often do you criticize or speak negatively about others? Or, maybe you try to be respectful, and you’re a positive person, but you hang with a crowd that criticizes, does this reflect negatively on you? Be honest. Is it human nature to silently judge and/or impose your opinions upon others? What do you think is gained by doing this?
No, it isn’t human nature and when we fall into this devious trench, we are attempting to hide our own flaws by magnifying the problems of someone else. Our words have power and if we’re talking negatively about or to another person, we’re manifesting and attracting like energy. It doesn’t make for a healthy life. Napoleon Hill once said, “Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.”
So, if we’re going to work on improving our lives, we need to start by being the opposite of negative for both the sake of others and ourselves. So, if you are criticizing others, instead, do the opposite, compliment them.
According to PsychologyToday.com, “…when you compliment others, you view yourself as a generous and big-hearted person. So, you increase your own self-esteem because you perceive yourself as a big hearted and generous person. In contrast, when you criticize others, you perceive yourself as a selfish and insecure person, thereby lowering your self-esteem.”
It really does come down to intention. Make an effort to feel good about you and to support others in finding their own feel good.
I started this article with a Napoleon quote so I feel it appropriate I end with his words too, “If you must speak ill of another, do not speak it, write it in the sand near the water’s edge.”