So you found an online dating website that works for you. Now it’s time to create your profile. The agony is comparable to crafting cover letters and resumes when seeking employment.
Most people will browse through your photos before actually reading your profile so put just a little bit of thought into how you want to portray yourself. They’re your calling cards. Men and women need to understand what the opposite sex wants to see and NOT see.
It’s best to have between 4 and 7 photos. Any less it may appear as if you have something to hide, any more it may look like you’re trying to make a hard sell.
If you’re an active person, you obviously should upload some pictures of you doing something exciting like skydiving, hang gliding or horseback riding. If you’re not as active a person, then upload some pictures of yourself napping.
Men should not post pictures of themselves with their shirts off. Generally speaking, it doesn’t matter if you have a 6 pack, a 12 pack or a keg, according to women you are already coming off like a bit of a douche.
As for women, although bikini shots are nice to look at, your inbox is sure to explode, attracting way more attention than you may wish to receive. Pictures of some rare flower you saw while backpacking through Ecuador shouldn’t be wasted on dating sites.
Remember that the photos should reflect your personality. If you want people to see you are the sensitive type then post a photo of you with family, and one or two (not all 7 pictures) of you with your pet.
The number one rule is that all pictures should be current.
If you live in New York, or better yet if you simply live – you’re likely to have this special passion for travel. We get it. No one should feel they’ve earned frequent flyer miles or jetlagged after reading the list of every place you’ve been to, or plan to visit in the future. It's best to name one, or two of your favorite countries (or planets) you’ve been to, and then a sentence expressing what about the destination moved you (the culture, the food, the history, the landscape etc.). Then be done with your travels.
Be creative when describing yourself and what you do. If you happen upon a profile that starts off with “My friends would describe me as blah, blah, blah [basically perfect],” send a cute little email that says something like, "Your friends seem really nice. My friends would describe me as a dim-witted schmuck."
Remember that in today’s world, especially in New York City, people’s attention span is short; and the cosmetically blessed people (if that’s what you’re after) probably have a ton of emails/profiles to sift through. Be brief. Make sure you don’t just check spelling, but proofread. It bugs people when it looks like you don’t know when to use “there,” “their,” “they’re,” or “then,” and “than.”
Once you have created a profile that shows the best you it’s time to officially enter the virtual dating society and start browsing for a date that may turn out to be your soul mate.
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