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Cougars...it seems like its the new phenomenon and its the talk of the town in the celebrity world and now in everyday life. It used to be that women over the age of 35 were considered "done", but the women today are here to tell you that just isn't so! No one thinks twice about an older man dating or marrying a younger woman, but when an older woman is dating a younger man, why is that such a big deal? Why is it OK for men, but not for women? I have found, over talking to many people, women and men younger and older, that there are many varied opinions about this whole phenomenon. Women these days are taking better care of themselves and can still look fabulous well over the age of 40 and there are many out there to prove it and its not just the celebrities. It seems as though "cougars" are here to stay and are now turning the tables and virtually making history, so for those who make fun or don't take cougars seriously, think again. Times are achanging!
Even so, there are still many misconceptions and myths about cougars; the first one is that being labeled a "cougar" implies that these women are out "hunting down their prey, (the younger men), and practically attacking them, or that all they are looking for is a boy toy for a fling. People poke fun at cougars and there has been much controversy about these woman. While there may be some exceptions, these things are just not true. In most cases, its the younger men who pursue the women and though some of these young men are just looking for someone who can "teach" them things or are looking for a "cougar experience", it is not always the case. Most "cougars" are not looking for just a fling or a boy toy... and many of these "cubs" are serious about the women they are with. They are both looking for love and an exclusive relationship just like anyone else, so who's to say that it won't work out? I say, who cares what other people think...do what makes you happy and what works for you. As I have often questioned, what is better, to be in a relationship that lasts a lifetime but is only mediocre or is it better to be with someone who makes you feel alive and brings you happiness and someone you have fun with and feel cherished and loved by, however long it lasts? Its certainly something to consider.
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Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher certainly are making a positive impression in that they seem to have a very solid relationship and even got married and seem to really complement each other and there are many more examples in which these relationships are lasting amongst many couples who are everyday people as well, so its not just the celebrities who are dating younger men. Even regular women 40 and over these days are still sexy, vibrant and beautiful. Factor in that "cougars" don't play games, know what they want and aren't afraid to ask for it, take care of themselves, and are at their sexual peak make it all the more appealing for younger men to pursue them. One of my problems I have run into while trying to date someone near my age is that the men are finally wanting to settle down and have children and I can't give them that, so that rules me out. Also, the older men typically want to date younger women and don't give my profile a second look, so where does that leave me? I have been pursued by younger men and I used to fight it. Now I'm learning to "embrace" the cougar in me. People who don't approve just don't understand...they presume that the younger man has nothing to contribute to the relationship or haven't lived life enough or that you won't have anything to talk about. This just isn't true in all cases. The "cubs" I have met have often been more romantic, more respectful, and are successful and we have much to talk about and many do not want children these days either, so that myth can be de-bunked as well.
There are many "cougar" sites out there for meeting other fellow cougars or for meeting younger men and vice versa. Some of my favorites are:
- Cougarific on myspace: www.myspace.com/cougarificapparel
- The Cougar's Den at: www.myspace.com/thecougarslounge
Some of these are more than just dating sites (although that is available as well)...its a chance to talk and share issues about being a cougar or dating a cougar in forums and blogs, etc. They are terrific for speaking out and being heard and getting valuable advice and opinions from your fellow cougars and cubs!
So for the women out there who are having problems finding someone near their age to date, consider dating a younger man. You just may find exactly what you are looking for.
My personal concept of what a cougar is, is this: "A 'cougar' I know typically is considered an older woman who dates younger men and while I do date men younger than me, personally, my view is that its any woman who is 40+ who won't allow age to be a barrier to being sexy, confident, beautiful, and vibrant...and accomplishing anything she sets out to do...no matter what her age is!"
As one of my fellow cougar friends recently told me, "These days women are called to walk a path that was once unavailable to us...now it's time to pave the path for (us and) those to come after us...we must take risks and lead to make that happen..." I couldn't have said it any better and I would say that path is well on its way to being permanently paved!
In closing, another friend shared this with me and I thought it was fabulous and very fitting for this article.... as the well-renowned writer, Andy Rooney has to say about "more mature women"
"In Praise of Women over 50"
As I grow in age, I value women who are over 50 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:
A woman over 50 will not lay next to you in bed and ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think.
If a woman over 50 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it’s usually something more interesting.
A woman over 50 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whomever.
Few women past the age of 50 give a damn what you might think about her or what she’s doing.
Women over 50 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.
Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.
A woman over 50 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn’t trust the guy with other women. Women over 50 couldn’t care less if you’re attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won’t betray her.
Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 50. They always know.
A woman over 50 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women or drag queens.
Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 50 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.
Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jerk if you are acting like one! You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.
Yes, we praise women over 50 for a multitude of reasons.
Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 50+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 18-year-old waitress.
Ladies, I apologize.
For all those men who say, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free, ” here’s an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire Pig, just to get a little sausage.
Well said, Andy, and thank you!
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