Today, we look parauresis - a common, but troubling problem that many men deal with.
Owen from Boulder, CO writes, “Why do I get stage fright in a public bathroom, and is there anything I can do about it? It’s super embarrassing.”
Well, Owen, the condition that I believe you are describing is known as paruresis, and it is actually a quite common thing. Plenty of men get nervous when approaching a urinal surrounded by other men. Essentially, what happens is the nerves kick in that causes the pelvic muscles to involuntarily contract, stopping the flow of urine. This then causes you to stand there, waiting for something to come out -- and nothing does -- which therefore perpetuates that cycle of nerves, tension, and not being able to pee.
So you can see how this can very easily become a problem. The best-case scenario for a man struggling with stage fright is to duck into an open stall where you can shut the door and get a few moments of privacy. If this simply isn’t an option, select a urinal that is most isolated form other men, and then you are going to want to try to drown out your environment to help you relax a little bit more.
Try closing your eyes, taking a few deep breaths or whatever other relaxation techniques will help you. And while doing this, you want to simultaneously contract and relax the muscles of the pelvic floor – you know, the ones that make you pee; this should help to stimulate the flow of urine and get things moving in no time.
It can take a little time, but with practice, you should be able to do this quite easily, so hopefully the stage fright will become a thing of the past. Good luck!