Sometimes the best thing about having a best friend is knowing that you can talk to them about everything and anything. That's something you can't always say about some friends and many times family. Having a person you can confide in helps when navigating important life decisions and learning even more about yourself.
Best friends tend to have a knack at knowing you better than you know yourself. They remind you of who you are and who you've always aspired to be. One thing you can count on is having someone who is willing to listen to you as you go on about your life. They help you understand if you're headed in the right direction or completely on the wrong track. That's why it's so important to determine if best friends should tell each other everything. Do you really want to hear the truth about how they feel about the situations you share with them?
That's something you have to ask yourself before you get your best friend involved. Sometimes it may feel comforting when you're able to get certain stressful things off your chest but sometimes those same friends who love you with all their heart may build resentment toward those who may not treat you well. I remember an incident where a cousin of mine would confide in her best friend about all the terrible things her boyfriend would do to her and after a while the friend really built a resentment toward him. Eventually she became so angry at him that when she saw him next she actually proceeded to punch him in the stomach in the name of defending her good friend. Unfortunately, she made her friend upset because she was completely shocked when she did it. She understood how she may have felt but didn't want her poor boyfriend to get assaulted.
Problem with telling your best friend all of the negative things that are happening in your life is that they may feel like they may want to defend your honor or punish the person who dare not treat their best friend properly.
With that understanding you should always use caution when sharing all of the negative things that may be happening in your relationship. Your best friend may be a good listener but they may also want to help you resolve some of those issues and may take upon themselves to get the job done if they think you are not. Best thing to do is to let them know in the beginning that this information is just between the two of you and let them know that although you may be venting your frustrations that you are just venting and trying to get it off your chest. No need to do anything just be that good friend who you can confide in.
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