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Confident Confidant: Working Moms, Career Decisions and Intimate Relationships

Many working moms seek to make a better life for their families by returning to college yet some men resent this action and view it as a selfish step that hurts the family. Noriko Iwanaga Chapman challenges this mentality and offers advice to career women who want to return to college in order to pursue personal development and a better life for their families.

Noriko Chapman, global expert, understands the challenges faced by working mothers and their personal relationships.
Noriko Chapman, global expert, understands the challenges faced by working mothers and their personal relationships.David Williams

Women often find it tougher to return to school. An education can reposition a person in the workforce. According to Georgetown University’s Center on Education and the Workforce study, a college degree adds 84% earning power over a lifetime versus just a high school diploma. However, women still show a disadvantage. In fact, women tend to need much higher degrees to earn the same as their male counterparts – even while working the same hours, doing the same job.

In 2006, Forbes.com editor Michael Noer published a controversial article about careers and marriages that sparked much debate on two-career relationships. Noer indicated that today’s men would be happier not marrying career women. He supported his statements with studies claiming that professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to be unfaithful, and less likely to have children. The article suggested that some men consider it offensive for women to seek more education that would take them away from the family. Fortunately, the article was taken down after only one day, due to the overwhelming response sparked among readers. Also, Forbes’ editor-in-chief, Steve Forbes, issued a public apology for the sexist remarks and the op-ed piece was replaced with a side-by-side article including the opposing view entitled “Don’t Marry a Lazy Man,” by Elizabeth Concoran.

Chapman is a symbol for successful working mothers. She is a single parent, working as a supervisor in a male dominated industry. After overcoming cancer, sheregained her strength and returned to work on a MBA degree at Lincoln Memorial University. Chapman understands the sacrifices of working mothers. Her experience with some men has revealed resentment toward women who want to return to school to better themselves.

Chapman argues, “Guys who don't want to marry career women appear to be afraid that those womenmay become more successful than they are. However, I think this attitude reflects their insecurities. I wish they would rise to the challenge instead of being intimidated. I know many successful career women who are caring and tender-hearted even though they must show a tough demeanor to demonstrate their strength among men in the workplace.” Her drive also led her write her first book, Second Chance: An In-depth Case Study on Nonprofit Organization's Resource Allocation and Operational Maximization. Chapman explains, “It was a Second Chance for me to go back to school and resume my career after surviving cancer.” She feels that some men are reluctant to deal with professional women. Yet, she understands that working mother is often asked to carry more than their load. Chapman states, “While I value traditional male and female roles in relationships, we can each contribute strengths to maintain a healthy relationship! That's my advice.”

Today’s reality is that most employed married men (68%) have employed wives. And half of children in the Unites States under the age of 18 are living with both biological parents. At these rates, the resentful male attitude is not only archaic, it is inaccurate.

For more information about the book or the author, please contact Noriko Chapman at 865-379-6455 or Chance2.Noriko@gmail.com. Ms. Chapman is available for media interviews.

About the Author

Noriko Chapman is an international traveler and a role model to millions of women looking to overcome extreme obstacles in life. Noriko is also a Lincoln Memorial University student. Second Chance provides nonprofit organizations with operation management tools to make them more efficient and better equipped to assist their clients and constituents in meeting their needs. Through the eyes of Ms. Chapman as a new MBA student, readers take a magical journey of overcoming a difficult situation in operations management and life. The book is available online at Amazon.com and other book retailers.

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