Everyone has those friends, relatives, and co-workers who are known and thought of as the complainers. Their problems are worse than everyone else’s. They have the hardest life. Nobody understands what it is like. What is their motive in doing this? It is usually not to get help from another but rather to get attention and notoriety that they are awesome, busy, important, and to say, “Hey! Look at me!” Ask yourself this: How many times have you actually felt sorry for these people? You rarely feel sorry for them because you realize that is all they are doing.
Ask a random person to show you their Facebook Newsfeed. If they don’t look at you like it is a joke and actually show you, you will see all of our Newsfeeds are littered with this on a daily basis. Take note of what the problems are. Are they actually serious? Typically they are not. It is just complaining and whining. If this article offends you it is likely you are a culprit of this behavior, however, this article is not intended to bash you but instead help. So before you stop reading and make a Facebook post about how some authors are so inconsiderate, below are some realities of life that apply to us all.
1.) Life is not fair. It is not a game and most do not care about your outcome. People are concerned with their daily affairs, family, work, and so on. Your ‘problems’ only make them think of you as someone who is weak.
2.) Complaining is contagious. You are who you surround yourself with. Take inventory of the attitude of your friends. Their whining can and will rub off on you. Pity parties are the norm with some so uninvite yourself from the guest list.
3.) If you and all of your friends on Facebook wrote all of your problems down on sheets of paper, you would probably reach for yours back. Also, those with the biggest problems are likely to be the ones who never complain. It would come as a shock to you what others are going through in which you were completely unaware.
4). You can spend more time complaining than doing something to fix the problem. People will fight to stay lazy and defeated when usually it more taxing than actually overcoming the issue. The negative, complaining attitude will make it almost impossible to overcome what you may consider the actual problem. The actual problem is not what you post on Facebook, it is the fact that you are posting something on Facebook that everyone else finds trivial instead of actually changing your situation.
Life is hard. Perception can define our realities so there is some credence to what you may believe is earth shattering bad news. Take the time to think beyond your life and to those of everyone around the world. Right now, a little boy is waking up from sleep because he is getting bitten by rats. In another city a boy is going to bed hungry. Down the street from you a girl is born without the ability to hear. Another girl was molested by her step-father. In many instances, these same kids grow up to be doctors, lawyers, business owners and many other productive members of society. Their problems did not stop them; they motivated them. So, the next time you say ‘woe is me’, stop being pretentious, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and start sucking it up and work with what you got. You are not born a complainer, you become one. Un-become one and your Facebook posts may stop being so unbecoming.
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