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By Dr. Joe Rubino
CEO, Http://www.CenterForPersonalReinvention.com
You maximize your personal power when you exude an energy of authenticity that comes from possessing high self-esteem. When you not only speak from the heart but walk your talk, others get the real you. Living authentically comes from closing the gap between who you are, what you do and what you want others to get about you. Authenticity results when who you are being equals what you are speaking. In contrast, when you project a facade that differs from what you think and who you really are inside, others sense the disparity. When your speaking and who you are being don't match, it keeps you from being heard and decreases your personal effectiveness.
For example, have you ever dealt with a slippery salesperson who was trying to sell you something you didn't want? You perceived the pushy, self-serving, overbearing energy as inauthentic.
The answer to communicating authentically starts with being at peace with who you really are and what you have to offer. It's about giving up your right to make others do what you want them to do, but looking to contribute something of value instead. The result will be that you will no longer be projecting an image that serves to conceal some aspect of yourself that you are hiding. You'll start to come across as real, concerned, down to earth, a good listener....all qualities that will attract others to you.
We all live our lives out of images we hold about ourselves, others and the world in general. When the image we have of who we are is inconsistent with the image we wish others to get about us, we put on an act to conceal whatever it is we can not stand. What this means is that if you are not totally confident about who you are, others will sense that your energy is off - no matter what you say.
So, before you can communicate powerfully with others, you must first do whatever it takes to handle your own belief in yourself. Accessing your power means handling any doubts you may have. It's all about believing in yourself and not being afraid to let others know it - from the heart. When your doubts no longer run you, you can speak with an authenticity that comes from being yourself. You can then have the freedom to focus on sharing authentically with others. And, you will have the power to succeed.
EXERCISE FOR AUTHENTICITY
1) Begin to notice when your energy is coming across in-authentically.
What qualities or thoughts about yourself are you reluctant to let others discover?
2) Identify any areas where your belief level is not at 100%.
What steps will you take toward resolving these issues?
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Dr. Joe Rubino is the author of “The Self-Esteem Book” and one of the world’s foremost experts on self-esteem elevation for adults and children. He is an acclaimed personal development trainer, life-changing success & life-optimization coach & best-selling author of 12 books in 24 languages. To learn more about his life-impacting coaching, and courses and receive free gifts, visit www.CenterForPersonalReinvention.com and http://www.SelfEsteemSystem.com
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