Effective communication is a term we typically hear in the office and it refers to being able to successfully communicate with your associates, co-workers, employees, etc. The same principles should be applied in all areas of your life, but sometimes that's hard to remember. Here are a few tips that can help you effectively communicate with your loved ones this holiday season.
- Don't bring up past events. You and your partner are both aware of the past issues you've endured, but rehashing them will only add fuel to the fire. Stick to the current issue.
- Don't get defensive. It's difficult when you feel like you are being attacked, but being defensive will hinder your ability to solve the issue at hand.
- Don't be mean. When arguments escalate, it's easy to criticize things you normally wouldn't, call your partner names, or give off body language that makes things worse such as rolling your eyes or sneering. These behaviors do not help and will only make things worse.
- Don't shut your partner out. It's easier to shut down and not discuss the problem, but it'll only be there waiting for you until it's discussed.
- Listen. Your partner wants to be heard, so stop and listen.
- Talk. Tell your partner how you feel and the possible solutions. Sweeping things under the rug isn't healthy for anyone.
- Make sure that you both understand the problem so that you can decide the best solution.
- Remember that you love and respect your partner. You can discuss issues calmly and without hurting one another.
Many couples are able to communicate effectively in the workplace, but not as much in their home life. Personal lives are just that: personal. The issues dealt with in our personal relationships can be very emotional and that sometimes means that effective communication goes out the door. Communication still ensues, but not the kind that will help solve the problem. Remember to stay calm, understand the issue, then work together to solve it. Your relationship will be strengthened through your teamwork.