During the marriage when couples 'bump' into an obstacle, they are using their common sense to get to the bottom of it. When couples are divorcing they throw away all common sense, and replace it with nonsense.
The nonsense become horrendous where children are involved; parents get caught up in being mad and mean at each other, and are blinded by their determination to punish each other, they don’t comprehend how much suffering their immature, [or intentional] behavior causes their children.
It is clear that the reason they are divorcing is because they don’t like each other anymore, therefore the nonsense is just that: 'nonsense'. Nothing they do-which they haven't done already-can hurt the other parent anymore; except for one thing-seeing their children suffer, or not being able to see them at all; that is the most horrific manoeuvre many parents use in these situations.
Depriving a child of the other parent, is a horrible form of child abuse. Unless there is clear evidence that the child is unsafe with the other parent, that practice should be avoided at all costs.
It’s unbelievable how parents who get caught up in custody battles, ignore the most precious God-given gift- their children. To a child nothing is more perfect and innocent than his/her parents. A child judges a parent by the love in his/her parenting, not by his/her spousal skills.
The pain of separation, and not having one parent there when the child goes to bed or wakes up, it's a lot to take on for any child; it's worse when he/she has to witness the ongoing conflict, and the pain of one parent trying to alienate the other parent, or feels that he/she has to choose one parent over the other.
To grow up into a content adults, children need both Mom and Dad in their lives, and to claim otherwise is nothing short of selfish behavior. The child will eventually and inevitably develop distain for the alienating parent either because as an adult he/she seeks help and in the process discovers the truth, or because the child is so damaged that he will become an abuser himself/herself.
Parents who think of doing that to their children, and before they set themselves for false levels of expectations, should really stop and think again; the leading psychological difficulty that arises from Parental Alienation is the development of an antisocial behaviour which will follow the child in his/her personal relationships potentially for the rest of his/her life.
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