O, brother, where art thou? If Sam and Dean aren't asking each other this question then surely the fandom is after watching, episode 13, "The Purge". There was no big surprise that a lot of comments have been, "I'm done with the show", "Sam is selfish", "Dean broke Sam's trust", it could go on and on, but the truth of the matter is neither Sam or Dean are perfect and have both screwed up in many ways over the nine season's we've had the privilege to watch their story.
This isn't a Sam Girl or Dean Girl battle or at least it shouldn't be because it takes two to tango and our boys apparently stink at dancing. No relationship on the planet doesn't hit a bump now and again, right? Granted, Sam and Dean's bumps are more like Mount Kilimanjaro or maybe K2, and unfortunately that is the way it will most likely always be for the brothers. William Butler Yeats once wrote, "love is the crooked thing, there is nobody wise enough to find out all that is in it ..." and make no mistake Sam and Dean do love one another even despite this latest cluster bomb that was dropped on viewers and Dean in the bro conversation at the end of "The Purge".
Excerpt of conversation:
Dean: “If the situation were reversed and I was dying, you’d do the same thing."
Sam: No, Dean, I wouldn’t. Same circumstances, I wouldn’t."
Now, even love should know limits to some degree and I hate to burst anyone's balloon that believes family is an instant glue that will hold the foundation together as the roof and walls threaten to fall, it won't. Family and blood are one ingredient among a myriad of other additives required to make a relationship work. Do I believe Sam would take a bullet for Dean, yes. Do I believe Dean would push Sam from the path of a speeding bus and take the hit himself, yes. Sam's statement at the end of "The Purge" I feel although harsh was taken out of context by viewers and Dean. The "... same circumstances" is the tell, Sam isn't saying he wouldn't make a similar decision otherwise, but given the circumstances of closing hell, etc., he wouldn't save Dean in lieu of the greater good. However, I think Dean was left with just hearing Sam wouldn't choose to save him at all. In the end, yes, they are family, but that has to mean something and maybe they need reminded of what it meant to them once upon a time.
I believe Sam would die for Dean to save him, but would he sell out all of humanity for his brother's life, well, he answered that question, no. Dean has proven he would sacrifice Sam for the greater good back in "Swan Song", but he was in panic mode when Sam collapsed after the aborted trials. Sam has been there, as well, when Dean went to Hell. Sam tried to make a deal for Dean but no demon would deal with him, so both brother's are guilty of flawed thinking when faced with a brother in danger. I believe there is something working under the surface, but the writers just haven't got us or Sam and Dean there yet. Patience, Young Skywalker.
There are quite a few torch carriers spewing their toxic opinions on Twitter over "The Purge" and say the writers are destroying the show and that Jeremy Carver is butchering the brothers. The reason most people have stuck with "Supernatural" for nine seasons is the brothers. Look, do I like every plot move, no. Yes, I get frustrated by the brother's fragmentation, sure, but I also understand that what we are seeing is what happens with life, it's messy. This is "Supernatural" not the "Waltons" and I don't think the show would have had the longevity that it has if the brother's didn't feel real to all of us. Have there been some terribly awful mistakes on the show in story arcs, oh yeah. I hated the Leviathan storyline it was a dead horse from the jump, Bobby's death, Kevin's death and the previews for the next episode, Snooki, really?! Yes, it does feel like the fissure between Sam and Dean is ever constant over the last few seasons with a few hopeful, heartbreaking moments thrown in when they find their common ground which is their love for each other.
Our brother's don't ever say it, well, not like they used to in earlier seasons with their brother banter of "bitch" and "jerk", I miss that and the amulet (I still believe and always will that Sam took it out of the trash). But, guess what has happened since the first couple seasons, a lot of crap that's what and Sam and Dean aren't the same men they were in season 1. Yes, they are fictional characters, but Jared Padalecki and Jensen Ackles have breathed life into them and in turn we have invested ourselves as a fandom.
I have little to no use for fair weather fans because life isn't perfect and quite simply it shouldn't be, so why threaten to jump ship on a show you've watched for years? I have no interest in watching some Stepford version of a Sam and Dean that remain static, have bro moments every episode where one or both of them is dew eyed, hug it out and where there is no conflict. There must be some sort of conflict, a give and pull, it's called story telling. Yes, I agree that this brother issue card is played too often, but this show isn't a sprint it's proving to be quite the marathon.
I could go on ad nauseam by breaking down every mistake or hurtful statement that Sam or Dean have done or said over the seasons, but I won't. I'm just tired of toxic people spewing their hate and ultimatums either at the "Supernatural" writers or viewers that don't share their venom. If you don't like it, don't watch it, and it's really that simple. So, Sam Girls and Dean Girls, you've hitched your wagon to the wrong team because both boys are fallible, both have made horrific mistakes over nine seasons. You could both go point to point and never out match one another. It's a viscous cycle of trying to tout one brother over the other and the truth is this show is about two brothers, not one individual brother.
Yes, Sam and Dean are in a dark, fractured spot right now as brothers. Perhaps, for them, maybe Eckhart Tolle is right, "life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment," so there could be some stronger bond from all this, who knows? But, keep in mind, Jeremy Carver isn't an imbecile, he knows what makes the show work, a story about two brothers, Sam and Dean. Yes, the ride is extra bumpy right now, but that's life.
This show is going to end one day and perhaps the ending will be the most heartbreaking, bittersweet thing we will have to endure as viewers but that moment isn't now, so have some faith that eventually Sam and Dean will start to repair their foundation. Keep watching and enjoy the bumpy ride.