Many people become so consumed in expending their mental energy that they lose sight of present day reality. There are many places to hide in a bad relationship: work, children, sporting activities, church, social activities, and educational pursuits are a few examples. At the outset, in fact, many are often unaware that they even are hiding! Separate lives now have become the norm in their relationship.
If you are in a relationship but are feeling alone, know that there is a price to pay for remaining on autopilot. A spouse who detests confrontation is likely to find that what makes him happy and hope things otherwise turn around. He may just become more social in order to handle the extreme loneliness. Friendships serve as a place to fulfill their emotional needs.
A recent article in the Huffington Post http://huff.to/1cQVThC demonstrates first-hand what can happen when one is clueless in a relationship. A man was terrorized by a judge who was having an affair with his wife. It is bad enough to be cheated on, but to almost be set up for felonies and prison is a bit overboard. You may think you know your spouse’s character but you never know the person who has been brought into the marital triangle. This man’s wife invited a sociopath into his marriage.
If you are currently living in a cold marriage the time to wake up is at hand. Your optimistic attitude could lead you into some rather painful, if not dangerous, future scenarios. Spouses might start to hide assets, cheat, stop contributing to the 401K/Roth/IRA, etc. Next, you might want to be extremely careful of any documents that you are asked to sign. Not to mention any greedy affair partner drooling over your (now) generous life insurance policy.
In today’s digital age of Adult Friend Finders, Ashley Madison, PURE app, and Xpress Booty Call, your health and life may very well be in danger. One cannot become Ostrich-like and just bury your head in the sand and hope that everything will just resolve itself. It is vital to become more informed then ever when couples are living separate lives. While your denial grows, your sexual health and perhaps your life may be in grave danger.
Unfortunately, one can no longer watch the news without hearing of another person who fell prey to the hazards of a clueless relationship. Today’s economy in conjunction with the convenience of online sex sites, a predator can easily end up in your marital triangle.
Knowledge is Power!