The old saying that, "familiarity breeds contempt," has become an old and oft repeated saying because it is true. When we become comfortable in our relationships, we often begin to take for granted those with whom we share those relationships. We, very often, would never treat a stranger the way we treat those who love us and whom we love.
This becomes especially true when we suffer pain. Pain makes us mean and nasty, especially chronic pain. Chronic pain wears us down. It makes monsters of us all. And monsters don't make for good relationships. The familiarity that allowed us initially to neglect propriety in our relationships becomes a door through which we shove our emotional frustration onto others.
The excuses that we use are many and varied, e.g., They should understand that I'm hurting. They know I'm in pain. They'll understand why I'm being nasty. Yes, the excuses that we use to hurt others are many and varied, but they are never justified.
It isn't really the pain that makes monsters of us. It is our choice to abuse those who care for us (and for whom we care) that makes us monsters. Choices have consequences and the choice to hurt others, regardless of our pain, is simply unjustifiable.
If we want to keep in our lives those who are important to us, we must make better choices. We must make choices to draw them closer to us, rather than choices that push them farther away. We have to do something different in our lives.
There is an alternative to chronic pain and the mess it makes of our relationships. That alternative is hypnosis for pain management - a safe and effective alternative to the toxic behaviors that continue to keep us in physical and emotional discomfort.
Ron Eslinger, a world-class hypnotist in pain management, says, "There is no pain until it reaches the brain." From a mind-body standpoint this is true. The nervous system registers a sensation. The mind, not the brain, defines pain. Hypnosis has been used successfully to treat many types of pain, including Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome (CRPS), one of the most difficult types of chronic pain to treat.
If you suffer from chronic pain, there is hope. There is hope for relief from the physical pain, and there is hope for the emotional and psychological pain caused by the damaged relationships created from months or years of suffering and causing others to suffer.
Are you ready for a change? Are you ready to take more effective control of your life and work towards the solutions you may have previously given up hoping to find? If so, contact Mottern Institute for Mind Body Wellness. Let them assist you in freeing yourself from chronic pain and the misery it causes.
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