Marriage is for a lifetime. (Yes, and even if he or she does not look like they did the day you married), marriage is intended for a lifetime. There will be ups and downs and hills and spills, but God intended for marriage to last a lifetime. (I know I sound like a broken record, but I am trying to drive home a point!) The Lord intended for those who marry to remain that way until death parts them. But today, divorce is more prevalent that marriage.
Many young couples on the day they marry have stars in their eyes and bursting love for one another. Makes me reminisce on "The Carpenters" old song, "We've Only Just Begun". I think of the lyrics......."white lace and promises, a kiss for luck and we're on our way....We've only begun..." What happens to those wedding day feelings? If I had one wish, it would be for those feelings to stay just like that for the life of the marriage. But, as many of us know, as the trials of marriage set in many marriages cave in. How do you go from loving a person with all your heart to barely being able to stand them? For many, now is the time to start thinking about divorce. You may be thinking that this is the only way out of your misery. But hold on! I heard a Pastor say once, that there is no one on this earth that he loves more than his wife, and that there is no one on this earth that could make him as angry as his wife either. What a contradiction......but not really. The reason his wife has the power to make him as mad as she can is BECAUSE he loves her so much. (Now, wait a minute. This don't apply to every situation. Some people truly despise their spouse and it is NOT because they love them!) So how do people maintain marital bliss when the marriage is no longer blissful? The answer is simple: God. (I hear what you are saying to yourself. Yes I can...Yes I can!) I repeat, The Lord never intended for there to ever be divorce. As a matter of fact, based on scriptures the only way out of a marriage, except for death, is infidelity. (Yep, the Lord takes infidelity/adultery that serious!) So to God, it doesn't matter if your wife or husband become fat; becomes sick; becomes unemployed; is no longer unattractive; or...doesn't show you enough affection, none of these issues are grounds for a divorce in the sight of God. You may not want to hear this....hardly no one does, but people divorce and remarry like it means nothing to God. News Flash..... It means everything to him. No one has staying power in a marriage anymore. Whatever happened to the saying..."through thick and thin to the bitter end"? That has no meaning in today's times. The marriage vows are very serious to God and getting out of a marriage is just too easy to do. In my opinion there needs to be restrictions in place for the grounds for divorce. You should not be allowed to simply pay the fee and obtain a divorce...NO QUESTIONS ASKED! (Uh...Abuse, is the exception to the rule. Always has...always will be! The Lord never intended for his daughters to be abused. Show me one place in God's Word that gives an example of any husband abusing his wife. You can't..you know why? Because THERE ARE NONE! The Bible is our guide on how we should live and the reason there are no examples of husbands abusing their wives in God's word is because HE NEVER INTENDED FOR MEN TO ABUSE THEIR WIVES!!!! So abuse is a deal breaker in a marriage).
So why do I believe true Christians marriages (I highlight the the word "true"), are stronger and able to survive when other marriages don't. The answer is this: God. He must be at he head of your marriage and everything in-between. And I'll tell you this: If more men treated their wives the way the Lord instructed them to, ("Husbands love your wives, as Christ loved the Church") meaning a man should sacrificed, endure long suffering if necessary, show and great love for his wife, there would be less divorces also. The Lord must be at the head of your marriage and it is the husband that answers to the Lord for the way he treats his wife. The Word of God says, that a husband's prayers can be hindered according to the way he treats or mistreats his wife. "Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered". 1st Peter 3:7. It is very important to God how a man treats his wife.
I am sure that there are those who do not believe that what I am saying is true, but I assure you it's true. Without Jesus being at the head of your marriage, a man is not going to understand how to treat his wife and a woman is not going to understand how to treat him. Only through Jesus have me and my husband learned how to love each other properly. When the trials of marriage set in we ran to Jesus! (And still run!) The trials of marriage don't stop and without Jesus there is no chance for longevity. (There are always exceptions to the rule, but the Rule is and always will be Jesus!)
So, if you find yourself entangled in marital woes please give Jesus a try. Truly place the Lord at the head and all around your marriage and I assure you, you will see a tremendous change. Prove me wrong.........and try it!