Is it possible to love two people at the same time? Most people, like T. Thomas of Charlotte, say "No." But why not? What is it that prevents the heart feeling love for more than one person?
Does it not depend on what your version of being "in love" means? In an admittedly inebriated state, Chris Brown made a video, "The Real Chris Brown", lamenting the stress he has over loving two people. The video shows snapshots of his now ex-girlfriend, Karrueche Tran, and his former girlfriend, Rihanna Fenty.
"When you love someone, really IN LOVE with someone, your heart is full of that person and that leaves no room for anyone else to take any part of that." -- T. Thomas, Charlotte
Photos of Brown and Fenty surfaced this week, prompting rumors that the two are once again an item. In the video, Brown says he is not a dog, his mother raised him differently. He released a statement stating that he has broken up with Tran because he did not want to put her through the hurt of his friendship with Rihanna.
“I have decided to be single to focus on my career. I love Karrueche very much but I don’t want to see her hurt over my friendship with Rihanna. I’d rather be single allowing us to both be happy in our lives.” — Chris Brown
Is it really that hard to believe that a person can hold strong interest and desire for more than one person at a time? Although it may be difficult to actively show a person love while dividing that love with someone else, it is very possible to feel a desire and emotional connection toward more than one person.
No one can really ascribe a definitive definition to what being "in love" means. So something that is difficult to describe is more inclusive than exclusive. What Brown feels, and what many others similarly situated feel, is desire to be with two different people. When one person captures your attention in a way wholly different than another, it is easy to fall for both.
Most people are multidimensional. You meet different people who mesh with different parts of your personality. If you couple that connection with physical attraction, voila! Recipe for developing feelings.
It is not horrible to feel desire towards more than one person. It is a human thing. However, when commitments and relationships are involved, it is best to avoid the temptation of falling, by staying away from the temptation and remaining loyal to the person with who you share a commitment.
Brown, did the next best thing, he ended the commitment.
What say you? Have you ever fell in love with two people at the same time? Or felt a strong desire to be with more than one person? How did you handle it?