This all started, as most things do, at a bar one night.
Really ladies...it’s not you, it’s me and my brothers, those of us who make the politically incorrect choice to be chivalrous in these so called, “modern times.” It’s not you, nor your sisters. In fact the whole thing has very little to do with you, regardless of what any hipster feminists may tell you. I know, it’s a difficult lesson to learn, that even though men value, respect and love you,not everything is about you.
Don’t take my word for it, or anyone else's, read, no not tabloids, or magazines, or web fodder, read books, preferably history books.
Read and learn that chivalry was not about women rather about men, specifically the type of man a man wanted to be.
Chivalry had it’s birth during the Middle Ages, after the fall of the Western Roman Empire.
Those were not good days for women, for children, for the elderly, not good days for anyone who was not strong, healthy and well versed in the weapons of war.
Knights of the time came up with a code of conduct, The Chivalric Code; among other things they vowed to protect others ...not just women, but anyone; man, woman or child who could not defend themselves. They vowed to be loyal, generous and to respect the honor of women. To tell the truth and to aid anyone they were able to.
This conduct stood in stark contrast to that of the barbarians.
Those who followed the code believed that their strength did not give them any right to harm those weaker, that strength did not give them any right to take from those weaker, instead their strength gave them a responsibility to defend and to help others. Those who followed the code did not force a woman to be with them. They simply followed their code and if a woman, seeing the type of man they were desired to be with such a man, that was her choice.
The same is true today. Chivalry is not about women, it is about men. There are men who still believe in the code.
By the very nature of the code these men would never force a woman or anyone else to do anything against their will, the exception of course being if they were defending an innocent, it would probably go against the pedophiles will to be knocked the heck out, but I nor most people would lose little sleep over it.
Back to “Chivalry is not about women, it is about men.” It is about men who have decided who they are and what they believe in. It is about men willing to stand up for those beliefs and for others. No woman has to have anything to do with chivalry or any man who follows the code. You don’t want us to hold the door, simply say “No thank you” or “F-you”, I've heard both before and still managed to keep smiling.
Don’t want to be on the last lifeboat? Simply say “No thank you” or “F-you”
Don’t want the last of the water while lost in the desert? Simply say “No thank you” or “F-you”
Don’t want us to shield you with our own bodies as the gunman opens fire? Simply say “No thank you” or “F-you”
Don’t want us to stop and change your flat tire in the rain? Simply say “No thank you” or “F-you”.
Don’t want us to pay for dinner or to cook you dinner? Simply say “No thank you” or “F-you”.
Of course, let’s go Dutch, or my treat or lets cook dinner together works too.
In closing, Chivalry is not about women. It is about men and whether we choose to stand for something or to be barbarians. If you don’t want such a man, there's no need to trash talk, to name call, no need for gendercide, simply say “No thank you” or “F-you”.
There's always the barbarians, of course they don’t care to be told no.