There has been a plethora of people who say that guys and girls can’t truly be friends. One of the main reasons behind this is because they say someone will ultimately be attracted to the other friend, and then what they thought was a platonic relationship turns into a crush situation. Sure it’s a tricky situation when this happens, but then who is to say that that is necessarily a bad thing? Or can’t there be two people who are honestly not attracted to each other at all and yet still really enjoy each others company, feeling that comfortableness that only comes when you can trust someone and be yourself around them?
Here comes the rub. First off, there’s no right answer to this sort of question, so stop looking for it. Secondly, it is definitely possible to have a friendship with the opposite sex, no question. If the focus is centered on women in this type of situation however, things get a little more tricky and interesting. Of course as any woman knows, being wary about any type of relationship is just common sense. These wary thoughts however, tend to be overlooked or discarded when it comes to guy friends. Because women tend to think of it as any other friendship, they don’t feel the need to be as aware of all the little nuances that they are normally hypersensitive to in other relationships, specifically romantic ones; “Oh he touched my hand…”, “he called me cute!”, “just got a text from him with a smiley face ”. These are actions that if done by a guy who is just your friend anyone would normally not think twice about them, but when regarded in a different light they are seen as a big deal. So back to the rub: regarding women: (because that’s whose perspective this is being written from) Friendships with guys are great, but it is important to remember that they ARE guys.
Let’s leave it at that.