A young woman informed me that between her schedule and young men with whom she might like a relationship, there is little room to meet and stay in touch.
Even given the advances in communication media such as "face to face" and texting, it can be hard to find real time. After all, kissing your phone can leave the screen obscured.
Two things can be considered, assuming distance is not a big problem. One is spontaneity. People often don't know when their schedule suddenly will clear up. The next is simply planning. Even when someone travels a lot, one can work to schedule things in. It is interesting to note that in the beginning of a relationship people work very hard to make this work. This is really evident if they meet on line as they somehow manage to schedule an opportunity to meet each other.
Often, however, with familiarity, the same scheduling fervor is not as much in evidence. What this points to is a need to prioritize. People can focus on their busy schedule rather than their downtime. They cease to make themselves a priority, and accept this in the other person as well, (or, if equally ambitions), just assume they will understand.
Setting a time to go over schedules covering a longer period of time is as easy as scheduling a first meeting. It just needs to be a priority. Just as important, is checking in between times to see if a busy period has opened up. Both set up opportunity as opposed to assuming life is too busy for much time with someone else.
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