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Bullying: not just for kids anymore

Tad Serrano
Tad Serrano
Photo taken by Miguel Serrano

Have you had a conversation with your kiddos about bullying? Perhaps you mentioned that they would need to tell a teacher if it happened at school. Maybe you suggested that they should not be afraid to tell you if they needed help or felt intimidated or afraid. Chances are, your youngsters are familiar with the protocol that is necessary and expected for bullying that occurs from one child to another. But what happens when the bullying comes from an adult? What does a child do if someone in the administration from his or her school decides to pick on your child? Will your child know what to do? Here are a few tips for you on how to handle bullying that comes from an adult in your child’s school’s administration.

  • Get the details from your child- Sit your child down and get details about what is happening. Write everything down, so you don’t forget anything. Try to get dates and times to make your case more verifiable.
  • Go to the source- The first thing to do is contact the person who is making your child uncomfortable. Call the school and make an appointment. Usually, the person will meet with you. Make sure that you document everything. If they refuse or give you the runaround, it is time to take the next step.
  • Go to the person in charge- Go to the next person up the ladder to help you with this challenge. If the person at fault will not see you, or if your encounter is unfavorable and you do not get the response that you are looking for, it is time to call in the big guns. Generally, the person who is above the offender will do whatever he or she can do to placate you and rectify the situation. Of course, if that does not happen, going over that person’s head is perfectly acceptable. Try to get an apology from the person at fault, and be sure that the administration understands that you mean business. Nothing is more important than the well being of your kiddo.

So, don’t let bullying get the best of you. Make sure your children know that you have their backs, and make sure they understand that you believe them, and they are not at fault. Although you may assume that adults know better, they will often take advantage of someone if they think they can get away with it. The last thing anyone wants is for a child to be afraid to walk down the hallways of his or her own school. Be a great example for your child, and stand up to bullying. Your child will be glad you did.