Domestic Violence Often Results In Bullying
Why bully? Bullying kills. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) domestic violence has many consequences, none the least of which is bullying.
Bullies are commonplace in schoolyards, where threats, fights and name calling are synonymous with memories of childhood torture. According to studies released by the CDC, bullies and victims both are likely to live with domestic violence and abuse at home. In fact, youths report that violent family encounters were common not only among bullies and their victims, but also among suicide victims and their families.
Comprehensive Approaches to Bullying and Violence
To combat bullying more effectively, communities must examine more closely the link between violence at home and bullying. Why bullying? In 2010 the CDC published an online Morbidity and Mortality report revealing the following among victims of bullying and abuse:
- Increased likelihood of suicide.
- Substance abuse.
- Low grades.
- Increased incidence of violence at home among bullying victims and perpetrators.
Students who witnessed violence or domestic abuse in the home, or students who participated in domestic violence were more likely to bully or become victims of bullies. These students were also more likely to suffer the ill effects listed above.
If bullying is going to end, then researchers, counselors, educators and parents must work together to adopt a comprehensive approach to preventing bullying and the wide-reaching effects this type of abuse has not only on students, but also on the communityat large.
Bullying is something that lasts a lifetime. Remember, bullying can kill. Why bully? What is the answer to bullying? It starts with love and respect, which begins at home. [i]
Bullying Spreads Like Butter
Children that are the victims of bullies often grow up into adults that bully. Often bullying results from low self-esteem that blossoms when children are put down or feel insecure because of the violence that erupts around them as children.
When children grow up surrounded by violence, they lack the security they require to feel safe. Thus they turn to violence as a means of feeling secure in themselves, and in their environment.
They may also turn to violence as a means of letting out their frustrations, about their own insecurities, and toward their parents for not providing them with the secure foundations they required as a child. This is a natural byproduct of a corrupt system, whether that system is the family system or the community system.
Communities and educational institutions have an obligation toward students to provide safe and secure environments where children do not have to resort to violence to feel secure, or to let out their frustrations.
If children do not receive the love, support, and security they require at home, then the community should step up and provide children with the security and love they require so they can become upstanding citizens. Here are some steps parents and educators can take to help prevent bullying related to violence at home and in schools.
1. Watch for early warning signs of violence in the home.
2. Remove children from violent environments.
3. Teach children respect for one another.
4. Model loving behaviors.
5. Teach children to value one another and themselves.
6. Honor each other and one another.
7. Provide children that are victims of violence with safe, loving, and supportive community environments where their need for love and security and supportive relationships can be nurtured.
Every member of the community has to work together to create this environment. Children are the future of society.
For more information about bullying and the link between bullying and domestic violence, contact:
*Bullying Prevention Center - http://www.stopbullying.gov/
*CASA -Center Against Spouse Abuse: http://casa-stpete.org
*LIFELINE - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
*SafeHouse Denver, 303-318-9989
*Healing from the Heart (youth) 303-733-1176
*Denver Children's Advocacy Center 303-825-3850
[i]1.usa.gov/dPyQYv MMWR 2011