Resilience is the ability to adapt to and maintain healthy spiritual, mental and physical health after experiencing a difficult event. After the death of a loved one, loss of job or receiving a serious medical diagnosis, resilience is a trait enabling an individual to cope, manage and move forward in life. For many of us resilience is an ordinary, common trait we have and use following difficult times. For some it is not. The good news is that resilience can be learned, developed and applied when needed.
Of primary importance in having resilience is having a caring and supportive relationship network in and out of the family. People in and outside the family who offer sincere love, care and support are helpful in times of need through their encouragement and reassurance. The Mayo Clinic, a nonprofit medical practice and research organization, offers the following tips to learn and develop resilience: • Establish and maintain healthy connections with family, friends, colleagues and community organizations. • Avoid defining crises as immovable objects. Learn to perceive and then interpret events in terms of a healthy future. The past cannot be changed. Perception is reality. You are in charge of your future. • Accept what you cannot change and that some circumstances are not in your control. Focus on circumstances that you can control and build resilience. • Establish realistic goals and goal-seeking behaviors to achieve your goals. Do not focus on the event. Focus on your healthy future. • Recall how you coped with crises successfully in the past. Apply those approaches and skills to your present-day crisis. • Take care of yourself spiritually, psychologically and physically. Tend to all your needs. Establish and maintain routines. Routines become something to lean on during times of crisis. • Always, always become and remain hopeful. Optimism is good. Visualize a healthy future not a fearful past.
Resilience can be learned, developed and applied. No man or woman is an island. We all need others in our lives to be successful. When something unexpected and traumatic happens the following groups can be helpful: • circle-the-wagons.org • victimsofcrime.org
Build resilience and live a better life. You owe it to yourself.