It takes a lot of courage to break up with someone, especially someone you've loved, or been in love with. You care about them. You care about whether they're hurting, and if you're the source of that pain, it makes life even worse for the both of you. But sometimes relationships need to be ended. They get toxic and unhealthy, like leftover food left in a refrigerator for too long. That food that was lovely in the restaurant has gone and congealed and made...something else.
So maybe that wasn't the best (or most appetizing) metaphor I could've used. But it was accurate. Mutual breakups are rare, though they are desired. And if that cannot be achieved, one must employ a few things:
1. You must find yourself again- the you that was present without the influence of the other person. Reset yourself before you break it off with your partner, so you are not blindsided when they're not in your life anymore.
2. Take some time for yourself. Relax. Eventually, this will be a bump in your romantic timeline. Right now this might seem like the most looming, awful thing, but in reality, it's simply just a chapter in your life that is closing.
3. Take some time, also, to plan what you're going to say to the other person. Don't go practicing a speech or anything- that will make you seem insincere. Just make sure you have enough evidence to convince the other person that the break is a good thing, and that your relationship needs to end.
4. Make sure you want this.