Breaking Up - Perspective Primer

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If we’re smart and observant, we can usually see our own break ups from a mile away. Maybe someone’s attitude changes, or you fall out of love, or you accidentally kill their cat. Either way, breakups seemingly always bring about a fair amount of anxiety and agony. Or do they bring about a sense of relief?

How you walk away from the catastrophic end of a romantic experience could greatly impact your attitude when you next take the foray into the dating world. Does nursing it with a carton of ice cream and a bottle of whiskey seem productive? Maybe your journal explodes with entries and poems about how no one will ever be as good as they were? We all have ways of venting, resolving, getting over it.

Positive or negative, how you end one relationship will greatly affect how you get into the next one. There are countless horror stories about the newfound feelings of loneliness result in excessive clingy behavior, or worse.

In the end, just remember that everyone you meet after your last ex is a brand new person who can offer a completely different set of experiences.

A breakup wont keep the sun from rising, or the weather changing. But how you choose to look at it may determine what coat you decide to wear that day.

My goal is to provide a variety of ways to look at recovering from getting dumped, and to look at the pros and cons of each of them.  While every action may have a reaction, it is important to pick the right reaction.