At some point we must break free of those who live to destroy us. They feed off our pain and weakness. It is hard when you grow up believing you treat others as you want to be treated. I was raised to respect my elders. It is a big step to speak up and break the cycle when it goes against your beliefs. Someone told me respect does not mean taking abuse. That hit home in a hard way. It left a hard choice to walk away from family who threatens and harasses you or stay because it causes others pain to be in the middle. An abuser does not make it easy. They attempt guilt and destroying your reputation. They will blame you in an attempt to gain control of others or you again. Breaking free is not always as simple as leaving. Facebook is great place to harass family. Facebook like phone companies have a great fix, block button. After threats I used both.
Family is hard to let go of. We want to cherish the good and bury the bad. When someone you love makes you feel bad, they are not healthy for you. If it continually happens the choice is yours to walk away until they decide to change. You can not just believe they have changed because they will tell you that. You must see it and feel it. Waiting for change could be like waiting for the end of the world. It may never happen. A person must see they are wrong and those who abuse play the blame game. It will never be their fault. It is your fault,nothing you do changes their choices. People make the choice to hit, and abuse. They will seek new victims who will stroke the ego and enable the cycle. Domestic Violence is a leading killer in America. Please seek help if your family and /or partner is abusive. Please see my website for more information. www.voices-amplified.com
Abuse is never the answer. No one deserves it, ever!