So many couples out there today have been living together (in sin as implied by certain religions) yet have remained in a healthy, happy content relationship. Why is it that some of these couples living such way are always attacked by friends or family members as to "why are they not married?" Well if you're happy why must a couple take a vow in front of everyone & sign a legal document saying or proving to everyone else that they're happy & are a "forever couple".
Relationships as it is do not need anymore complications from the pressure (If any at all for some). When you choose to be in a relationship and have been for numerous years; why change anything? If & when the both of you choose to take it to the next level (which is really just a piece of paper making the difference) then more power to the both of you. Make this change for yourselves, not for anyone else.
Do not feel that if you don't get married even after years of living together your relationship doesn't mean anything. It can mean the world to the both of you; it shouldn't be labeled because neither of you sign a document. Love is love and doesn't have to be proved in a ceremony or in a courthourt. It is the emotion, support, respect, honesty, loyalty & friendship that the two of you already share.
If you are one half of the relationship that has been bombarded with the "Are we ever going to get married, What is this all for?"questions then feel free to ask your partner just prepare yourself for the answers you just may not want to hear or ever expect. Yes, ladies & gentleman it can & will happen. If you've come to the point where you received the answers and didn't exactly hear what you (assumed you would) then you either pick up the pieces or let go of what & how you have been doing with that person all that time.
Do not allow yourself to be taken advantage of because you love someone. If you truly seek marriage in your heart & that person doesn't or can't give you that; then the answers rely within you. The mistakes some "Women & Men" make today are the same one's they have made years ago. Ego, Pride, Trust Issues, Fear of commitment. I can honestly say that I personally have seen "Men" more afraid to commit than I have women to commit. Unfortunately after so many years of being together & no marriage has come about wouldn't you ask yourself why?
So we have the answers, as hurtful as they maybe what is the next step? Do you let go of your relationship or do you hold on & be content that it is what it is a happy, wonderful "Relationship". Will you be able to continue to live with your partner knowing they do not want it? Or can you really be happy knowing you will never be that person getting married in front of everyone? Whatever the answer is for you remember the key to it all is LOVE.
If there is enough love between the both of you to respect each other's fears & whatnots then LOVE should conquer all. If needing the ceremony, courthourt, legal document, religious vows, sacrament (whatever it is) is something you choose to have then let go of the person who cannot give this to you.
When I say "let go" it can be implied as in anyway of moving forward; either you simply end your relationship as a couple & remain close friends or you walk away from it all and find what you're looking for. It's that simple. NOT.
When a longterm relationship ends it's highly unknown as a "decent, mutual breakup" either the woman is bitter & wants to make HIM feel like he's made a huge mistake. Think ladies that role is tiresome just let him be. Men take breakups kind of harsh also. Yes, ladies some men do care & have feelings (even if they don't want to marry you). Some men become obsessive, arrogant or a promiscuous whore. yes I said it. Sometimes they want to forget about the love they lost by jumping into bed with whomever they meet. Get it right guys the only person you're hurting and making a fool of is yourself. This too is also such a cliche.
So bottom line is ladies & gentleman is. If you breakup; do it on a decent level of respect for one another and do your best to move forward. Do not dwell on the past; look forward into your own future.......