Have you ever talked on the phone with a stranger from Facebook or a dating app for hours and felt an instant connection or that you’ve known them for years? After talking about careers, future plans, hobbies, similarities and differences , music, movies, discussing plans and experiencing euphoric , supernatural feelings for one another, is it possible the next day when meeting in person there is absolutely no chemistry/sexual attraction?
You’ve creeped on their pictures and already confirmed they’re ridiculously good looking and you love their interests, goals, passions and future dreams in life, so why is the ignition not sparked when you’re face-to-face? There’s not one definite answer to this devastating plague, hah.
Some guys (sporty-douchebags) get a thrill on getting the “girly” type excited and intriguingly interested only to screw them over and act like a completely different person. I’ve done some research and interviewed many people that have experienced something very similar to the “bond & ditch” epidemic. MC cried, “I talked to a guy all night once and he told me he envisioned me as his future princess and wanted to hold me in his arms forever. The things we talked about were unlike anything I’ve ever experienced talking to other guys. The next day, we went to his lake house and it was silent between us the entire day. All the dialogue we exchanged the night before was gone. Who was this mute?”
Others I’ve interrogated have unfortunately been sucked into this devilish behavior, but really who is the one at fault? Can you honestly fall in love on the phone? Chemistry is often confused with sexual attraction. That seems to be the factor in most cases I’ve witnessed. If that’s not there, than anything discussed prior was just a fable.
Word to the wise: Text for a bit, no talking until the first date. That’s when the real first impression is made.