Denver -- Ronald Smith was found guilty of 'second degree burglary and criminal mischief' on Wednesday. According to reports he put raw chicken in his ex-wife's heating ducts, erasing her computer hard drive, and pouring an unknown substance into her baby grand piano. The vandalism is estimated to cost thousands of dollars. It only took the jury 6 hours to come back with a verdict, the conviction could carry a sentence up to 18 years in prison.
This crime gives new meaning to the second stage of 'the five stages of grief' model introduced to the science world in 1969 in Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' book (On Death and Dying). The model was originally used to help people cope with death of a loved one, but has translated into other areas of loss (divorce could be considered one).
If you read the list of vandilism acts one could easily assume anger fueled his actions to some extent. Whatever caused the angry reaction couldn't be worth a trade of 18 years. The anger stage is the second most dangerous stage of the grief model, second only to depression.
If you are asking yourself questions like; 'Why me?' wondering who you can blame (anyone but yourself), believing what happened is not fair, a grave injustice, or feeling uncontrollable rage or envy, you may be experiencing the second stage of grief ... ANGER.
There are books that can help you through the process, friends who can be there for you, support groups and counsellors that specialize in loss counselling you can reach out to (Colorado Springs listing). Have you felt the pains of the above model over a loss like divorce, job, death of a loved one? What was the hardest step for you to overcome? Feel free to leave a comment below with your thoughts.
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