When he or she’s not calling or writing back, the pain can seem unbearable, and the lessons involved may not be what you want to hear from. Investing and devoting open full trust in your beloved takes time, it doesn’t happen overnight. Suddenly it’s called out, in a permanent time out and love lies bleeding in your hand.
The dump truck of life
It can be humiliating and it can wreak havoc on your soul and self esteem. You are grieving just like a death of a loved one, the pain needs to be worked through. Finding your way through the invariable ship wreck and tangled web vines is a daunting task.
Love lost lessons, you felt special even when you weren’t together
Those characteristics that your mate saw in you, attracted the two of you like magnets together still exist. You are lovable, when your pleas for healing go unheeded over time, acceptance is a dish best served immediately. Don’t take it personally. Honoring and preserving the part of the relations that is you is to pick yourself up off the kitchen floor and back on the stove again. Try not to reminisce on the last mean things said to you or about you. Breaking up is rarely pleasant. You are worthy.
The intoxicating old black magic
Love’s spell is a magical process nonetheless.
“Though nothing can bring back the hour of the splendor in the grass; the glory of the flower. We will grieve not; rather find strength in what is left behind.”
Wise words from William Wadsworth. What may buckle your knees from under you, does make you stronger. Love is a complicated thing, to plant the seed and watching it blossoming out. The communion of two adoring all encompassed souls is a special place indeed. Missing that extra bolt of energy at your side which enveloped you continuously leaves an uneasy empty space.
Loves romanticism lost can be harsh
Heartbreak prevents you from mowing your lawn for a time people drive or walk past and in seeing the overgrowth know instantly something is amiss. Mowing your grass takes effort, and diligence. In the meantime some judicious trimming pays off and before you know it the lawn is fully mown and well tended again.
Impermanence happens, the purity and innocence, and the beauty still exist. Keeping the strength of these moments, which is all they are, is the beauty of the beast. Like the classic movie, “Splendor in the Grass,” Bud and Deanie, the two star-crossed sexual repressed lovers, at the end of the movie, realize they must go on without each other.
While Deanie was in the institution for two years, she met a boy who is a doctor who wants to marry her. She goes back to her hometown upon her release to find out if her one true love is still feeling the same way about her, to lay to rest or to bring back the splendor for Bud before she involves herself in marriage. Bud has since married to a woman no less wealthier than the plans his father made him break up with Deanie over to go to college. Bud is a rancher, with one child and another on the way.
Like, “The Diary of Anne Frank,” it’s not the happy ending we were hoping for
When we accept change, we learn from it, and it becomes our strength instead of our enemy. You can’t marry yourself to the results of any expectation, meaning you have to know that things can be different the next moment than they are now. Change is transforming. Over time that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach goes away and you reach a place called wisdom.
If you look deeply into impermanence you will do your best to make your beloved happy for the moment. Like getting ‘stuck’ in anger, if you practiced impermanence you wouldn’t stop to get stuck in shouting and blaming. You would stop and breathe, and look deeply to realize hundreds of years from now how everything will be different. What will they be like? What will you be like? Will any of this matter? You will think it silly to be angry and be grateful you both are still alive and have the time you do now.
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