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Better communication for a happier, healthier relationship

Communication is an important part of a great relationship. Trust is often born from open and honest communication and the way to help it grow is to keep it up. Sometimes the truth hurts, but in a relationship, your partner needs to know what bothers or upsets you and what makes you happy and comfortable.

You make me happy when skies are gray

Not everyone can live in a world of sunshine and rainbows, so when those stormy days hit, having a partner who will listen if you need to talk or know just the thing to say or do to make you feel better can mean the world. Don't close yourself off from him/her. Let your partner know that you are going through a rough patch and need a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen. If you really do not feel like being around anyone, tell your partner that you need a little time by yourself to process things. This leaves them feeling less helpless and they will understand that you will come to them when you are ready.

Don't worry. Be happy.

Having a partner who knows exactly what it takes to make you happy doesn't happen by accident. Telling him/her what your likes and dislikes are, what really sets you on edge or gets you excited, and what needs or wants you may have makes it easier to know what to do or say no matter the situation. Find out what their needs and wants are too. As you get to know each other better, it will feel like second nature and you and your partner will be able to pick up certain cues to prepare for whatever situation life throws at you.
The easiest way to get to know someone is through communication. Opening your heart and baring your soul is never an easy task but you will be rewarded with a partner who understands you better and hopefully will refurn the favor. Dr. Phil has a test on his website that will help you better understand the pattern of communication that you and your partner have and how to make it great.