Love comes when you're not looking. But if you're single, that statement seems like an oxymoron. Who isn't looking for love when it's in our DNA fabric to connect intimately with our human counterparts?
So maybe you're in the wrong city, or you are more of an introvert. Not to worry-- we have a cure for that.
Okay, so you don't have to become desperately obsessed with finding someone, but you can increase your odds of being in the right place at the right time. And no, sitting on your couch at home will definitely decrease your odds of finding true love.
Here are the five most popular places (or methods) of finding your next relationship:
- Mutual friends. When I see happy couples, the first question I ask them is where they met. They often respond that they met at a party or blind date through friends. Hey, it's sort of obvious that our friends care about us the most, so trusting them to know what we're looking for is usually a safe bet. Ask your friends or family if they know of any singles in their social circles. You never know when fate will cross paths with mutual friends.
- Online networks. Some online daters get lucky and find their mates on dating sites (although many say it takes patience, a few bad dates and luck to meet the right one). I've also heard rave reviews about how Facebook has been making connections in countless ways. Either couples reunite through alumni links or by becoming cyber-social with mutual friends (hey, that goes back to the first one). A great way to make connections is to join fan pages for dating coaches or other organizations with common interests. You may see familiar faces more often and start a good conversation.
- Social events of common interests. What do you like? Sports? Attend local sporting events. How about music? Why not attend concerts in the park? If you like topics about business, relationships or improving your life, find a seminar nearby to meet with like-minded people. The more you interact with others that have common interests, the more likely you are to meet a person who is compatible in other ways.
- Volunteering. As with the above example, helping out in the community with something you're passionate about will open the gateway for meeting similarly caring individuals. Anything that you're excited about is an option (church functions, law enforcement, pet rescue, beach cleaning, arts or museums). Do some research through your city website to find links to places you'd like to volunteer your service to. Even if you don't make a love connection, the spiritual benefit for helping out will be a win-win.
- Regular hangouts. That is, assuming you hang out in social settings. I heard a great story about how a couple got together by seeing each other regularly while getting their morning coffee at Starbucks. What started as acquaintances developed into a deeper friendship and eventually fell into love. If you don't hang out regularly, why not take a class at a local college or find a meetup group and do fun stuff together?
Wherever you go, there you are. If you're ready and open for love, it might just fall in your lap. Although, if you're at the coffee house, be careful it doesn't spill hot liquid there, too.
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