The Employment Clinic
Believing In Yourself
By Lawrence Alter
Are you finding it hard to generate meaningful interviews? When you get an interview does it seem as if the other candidate is always getting the offer? Has your job search gone on for months with no results, and are you finding it difficult to stay motivated? Finding a job is hard and demanding work. This is what you can do to maintain a positive mental attitude.
The beginning of all achievement lies in a strong and unshakable belief that you can and will be successful. In his remarkable book Think and Grow Rich, which has sold over 20 million copies worldwide, Napoleon Hill says, “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” He also said “The power that signals success is the power of the mind.” We can choose to succeed by refusing to accept failure, or we can choose to fail by allowing ourselves to believe we cannot be successful.
It is a highly competitive job market. There are over 15 million people in the U.S that are looking for employment. There is bound to be disappointment and frustration. Don’t allow yourself to be troubled about yesterday’s failure or brood about a rejection from last week. You cannot impact the past. Don’t worry about next week or next month. It isn’t here yet. Today is here and what you do today will impact both the present and the future. So to quote Dale Carnegie in his best seller How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, “live your life in day-tight compartments.” Concentrate on what you can do today. The best batters in baseball go into a slump, quarterbacks throw interceptions, and the world’s top golfers often fail to make the cut in a major tournament. But they don’t quit. They recognize that every failure is a step towards success. They work on improving their game. Following are a few brief examples of people who did not give up – nor lose faith. As actress Julie Andrews said, “Perseverance is failing nineteen times and succeeding the twentieth.”
- Franklin D. Roosevelt was crippled with Polio. It did not keep him from achieving success.
- Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times during his career. But he hit 714 home runs.
- Henry Ford was broke when he was 40 years old. He never gave up.
- Oprah Winfrey born into poverty and prejudice, overcame great adversity to become the wealthiest and one of the most influential women in America.
- Helen Keller as a 19-month old child suffered an illness that left her totally deaf and blind. Her story of courage and victory is portrayed in the movie “The Miracle Worker.”
Never allow yourself to be influenced by the negative attitudes of others. No one has a right to demolish your dreams. All too often people are pessimistic and provide us with reasons why we will fail. The only thing that really counts is what you personally believe. Even though many employers will reject you, they are the losers – not you. Ultimately you will prevail. Believe in yourself and your mission. Never think of failing – and you won’t. Following are some things you can do that will give you the emotional boost to maintain a positive mindset.
- Reward yourself for things you have accomplished rather than focusing on things that have gone wrong. If you have set daily objectives and accomplished your tasks, set up an interview or gained a referral, then take credit for your achievement. As long as you have taken positive action and met some job search related goal each day, be proud of yourself.
- Rely on your family, friends, and colleagues as a support mechanism. They can help you to stay motivated, give you needed emotional support, and provide contacts and ideas that will benefit you.
- Join a job transition group. An excellent website that provides a comprehensive listing of support and networking resources in the Twin Cities may be accessed at: www.mnips.org/events/job_transition_groups.pdf
Remember that you have valuable attributes to offer an employer including your knowledge, experience, and level of proficiency; your loyalty; the dedication and enthusiasm you are willing to bring to your job; the desire to be the best that you can be; and the commitment to provide your employer a high quality performance.
An excellent resource that focuses on how our thoughts influence our successes and failures, and ultimately our very lives is the motivational self help book by Norman Vincent Peale, “The Power of Positive Thinking.” We urge you to read it and absorb its time-tested philosophy.
To quote Sri Chinmoy, a celebrated spiritual leader, “An unaspiring person believes according to what he achieves. An aspiring person achieves according to what he believes.”
Author Lawrence Alter is president of L.D.A. Enterprises, Ltd.; a Minneapolis based outplacement and career management firm. He is a recognized expert in career growth techniques and former columnist for the St. Paul Pioneer Press. Send ideas or questions via email to: LDA@EmploymentClinic.com. Website address: www.EmploymentClinic. ©Copyright 2007 Lawrence Alter. All rights reserved.