Becoming a parent to a child is not an easy task, but becoming one to your mom or dad can be virtually impossible.
Many seniors grapple with getting older, not being a burden on their adult children and not giving up their independence. Conversely, adult children often struggle with accepting that their parent is no longer capable of taking care of themselves.
There are three steps that every adult child should take to help ease their mom or dad into their new relationship: appreciate their parenthood, help them embrace their legacy and help them develop a plan of care before they need assistance.
Dust off their photo albums and travel down memory lane with your parents. Express how they showed you love over the years. If possible, you may consider having regular meals with them or planning special occasions with them throughout the year.
Many seniors have left rich legacies of faith, work ethic, family values and financial security, but may feel unimportant as they age. Help them put their legacy in perspective by making a record of it through writing or scrap booking.
Losing independence takes a toll on a parent, so help them create a plan of care when they are independent. You will want them to consider the following: if they will move in with you, receive care in their home or relocate to a retirement or assisted living community and setting up a power of attorney and other advance directives.