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Sure, for some couples BDSM and "kinky" sex is out of bounds, but when properly practiced, and when both parties feel it is something enjoyable, it can help build trust, and help build a candid, open relationship. Not only does it allow couples to explore different types, positions, and new toys in the bedroom, it also helps couples open up to one another, talk about their likes and dislikes, and build a closer relationship, as they are engaging in different types of sex and more enjoyable positions than couples who are not open to these types of things.

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Adventure and keeps things fresh

What many people would term to be "kinky," is something that can in fact be good for a couple. Not only on a personal level, but on a physical level as well. Trying different positions, engaging in more passionate sex, and enjoying one another's company is a great way to build up your relationship; it is also a great way to get in a workout that most couples do not get in when they are in the bedroom. Further, it is good to build your relationship up. Couples who are open, and willing to try different things with each other, are generally happier than couples who always do the same thing. So, kinky sex, and BDSM might be something that many view as unnatural, or uncomfortable, but for couples that are open, and willing to talk about it, it will bring you closer, and help you build a solid foundation and open relationship.

Building trust and open communications

BDSM is a form of submission and dominance in the bedroom. At different times in the relationship one person may be the dominatrix, and the other will be the submissive partner, and over time this can change. This type of relationship requires quite a bit of intimacy, it requires open communications at all times, and it requires both parties to be open to trying new things. Couples who are never willing to try anything out of the ordinary, tend to get bored with one another. In many instances, this leads to cheating, and it leads to many unhappy and broken relationships over time. But, couples who are willing to engage in BDSM, and trade positions with one another, show a level of trust that most other couples do not have. By being submissive, and allowing one party to dominate, it shows both parties have faith and rely on the other. It also shows both individuals are willing to engage in different acts or positions which makes the other partner happy. Read more:[BDSM and the St. Andrew’s Cross]

By doing something that your partner enjoys, by having an open line of communication at all times, and by discussing the kinky sex and BDSM rituals which both parties enjoy, you are not only going to feel closer to your partner, it is also going to build a level of trust that many couples do not build, even after several years of being together. By doing something to please your partner, you are not only going to enjoy it yourself, you are also going to bridge the gaps that may be found in your relationship, and help create a stronger, closer, and healthier bond as a couple.

To many it may seem unorthodox, or may seem to be unnatural, but couples who do engage in BDSM, kinky sex, and are willing to try new things with one another, they tend to have stronger, healthier, and open relationships. Couples feel attached to one another, they build higher levels of trust, plus as a bonus, they have a more enjoyable sex life than couples who are never willing to try something new with their partner.

Whether you engage in, or would never consider it, BDSM, dominance, and trying the many different things in the bedroom, transpires to other areas of your life as a couple as well. You can build a healthier and stronger relationship. It also helps bring down walls, and allows couples to feel open and honest with one another. It will not only form a close tie in the bedroom, but helps you feel closer to one another in all areas of life, of your relationship, and with the different activities that you engage in as a couple over the years. Interested in becoming a dominatrix or getting into the lifestyle? Below are some great articles to further you on the BDSM relationship and why it can be good for you.

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