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Marriage undefined: Why are gay marriages still not allowed?

Oregon ready to implement gay marriage if ban fails
Oregon ready to implement gay marriage if ban fails
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I live in the liberal state of Oregon. While it is known as being liberal, it seems the government is having difficulties in defining marriage in the state. Are gay marriages allowed? Will a law to allow two people of the same gender marry pass in Oregon without an angry mob hating the candidates during the next election? Do the people of Oregon want to have same sex marriages in this state?

US District Judge Michael McShane stood ground to fight off the efforts of the federally funded group, the National Organization for Marriage, as they were attempting to step in and ban gay marriages, in our state.

McShane is Oregon’s newest federal judge. He was appointed to the position by President Obama and the Senate confirmed his seat.

After reading about a “bold” political move to allow these controversial marriages in Oregon, I turned my attention toward the news being reported on television today. I heard stories of at least three men who had been convicted of murder marrying the women they supposedly love while they remained behind bars. My thoughts immediately turned toward those couples who are of the same sex.

What is marriage? According to general terms and the simplest definitions, marriage is “the formal union of a man and a woman, typically recognized by law, by which they become husband and wife.” At least that is what the dictionary deems as the definition for marriage. Even the dictionary seems biased.

Why is marriage between two people of the same gender so offensive for those who do not have an attraction for those of the same sex? How does it affect those who do not believe in same sex marriages? Bottom line is, it doesn't.

When gay marriage isn’t allowed in this country, why are marriages allowed for those who have murdered someone? Why is it that pedophiles can marry or remarry?

I went on a journey to find odd marriages in the history of the world and was astonished at the findings. It seems many strange marriages are allowed in the world, yet same sex marriage is still frowned upon. Why?

In China, 39-year-old Liu Ye from Zhuhai City, has married himself. I guess there wouldn’t be any problem with choosing the last name you would keep. He married himself in front of 100 guests in a courtyard and made it official.

Eija-Riitta Berliner-Mauer is a 54-year-old woman who has been diagnosed with a condition called “Objectum Sexuality.” Her name, in German, translates to her “husband’s” name, The Berlin Wall. Her sixth trip to the wall was made in 1979 and in front of a few guests, she tied the knot.

Ms. Wall is a virgin in the realm of human interaction, but insists she has had a full blown, loving relationship with the wall. I don't think I want to even imagine this one, but, each to his or her own.

Berliner-Mauer was broken hearted when the wall was partially torn down in 1989. She went into mourning for the loss of her husband and keeps a model with her that shows the wall in “his” previous state.

A Japanese man has married a Nintendo DS video character. A woman who has Asperger’s syndrome has married a fair ride. A woman in France has married her ex-boyfriend, who actually died two days before their wedding ceremony. He passed away after a fatal motorcycle accident.

A man was married to a giant pillow in Korea. Yes, a pillow. A woman who fell in love with a cobra married her reptile hubby in 2006 with 2,000 people in attendance.

Mr. Smith from Washington State has been diagnosed with “mechaphilia.” He claims to be in love with a VW Beetle and has married it. Ah, but his wandering eye has spotted many other vehicles of the mechanical type. He has admitted to committing adultery with other cars and even a helicopter.

Many people against gay marriage tend to quote the bible as a way of defending their beliefs against those who do not share the same view. Let’s take a look at some of the “normal” marriages listed in the bible.

The most common marriage type in the bible is where a man has married more than one wife. These marriages are forbidden in most states today. These marriages are commonly known as polygamous.

The second type of marriage listed in the bible (the story of Onan, Gen. 38:6-10) is the Levirate marriage. These marriages were formed when a widowed woman was without a son and it became the responsibility of the brother in law or whatever male relative was the closest in the family line to take her in and impregnate her. If the child born was a boy, he would assume the position of the heir of the mother’s late husband. Awkward.

Men with one or more wives in the bible is common read. Some of them even have women on the side that they do not hide in any sense of the word. The concubines were “tied” to their “husbands” but were treated with a lower status. Children were not considered heirs since they were the offspring of the concubines, so it was okay to have sex with them as well. The bloodlines would not be destroyed, as these women were not considered part of the family.The famous story of the Levirate and his concubine can be found in Judges 19:1-30.

Women could be assumed as “booty” from a war campaign and were thrown into the position of wife or concubines. (Deuteronomy 21:11-14). Slavery anyone?

In the book of Deuteronomy, (22:28-29), a description of how an unmarried woman who had been raped by a man is told. This passage also explains how the barbaric act creates an immediate marriage for the woman. She must marry her attacker.

Female slaves could be married to a male slave, without asking permission. This decision, of course, was put into play because it would create other slaves. A win-win for the slave owner.

The “standard form” of marriage, the man and woman scenario, is also in the bible. The marriages aren’t quite what you might think, however. During those times, they were arranged marriages. I did this sort of "marriage" scenario in the seventh grade, when I put a breeding pair of fruit flies in a jar.

Today, we have changed quite a few of these grotesque marriage arrangements. Most come across as vile and would not survive a vote in today’s world. With the eradication of slaves and the women actually becoming “citizens”, we now have a "civilized" outlook on what we consider to be a marriage. Or do we?

People are marrying bridges, for crying out loud. Two people in love can’t marry because they are of the same sex? I have read many comments on various venues, claiming the bible states this and the bible states that about same sex marriages. After reading what the bible has determined to be "normal" marriages, do you really want to consider the bible as a way to depict what a normal marriage is? For example:

“If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them.” Lev 20-13

Really? They will be put to death for marrying someone of the same sex? But raping a woman is okay? Having slaves or having sex with their own children is fine?

We can also use the bible as another perspective:

“There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?” James 4:12.

As the laws begin to allow marriages for same sex couples, it makes me smile. Not because I am attracted to anyone of the same sex. I do know that it makes no difference to me who is in bed with who. The friends I have, who do choose those of the same sex to form a relationship with are considering me a friend, without judging me on who it is I sleep with. Imagine that.

It could not be any worse than some of the politicians who are in bed with the worst of corporations and we pay for the outcome. I believe that we have much bigger fish to fry in today’s world than to worry about who our neighbors are sleeping with. It’s time to get our heads out of other couple’s bedrooms and into saving the planet, feeding the hungry, ending the violence and making our world a better place to be. Why is it we are judging love?